Leave or stay. What to do if the relationship is at an impasse
The conditions to which a man responds, even if not immediately, but almost always, if he is normal, is your sincere desire to build a relationship with him, your confidence and desire to love him, so to speak, the readiness to “surrender to him, forgetting about yourself”.
Mutual interest has extinguished between you and you are increasingly wondering what keeps you next to this man? Previously, so active, now he increasingly prefers to spend time on the couch or at the computer, you will not be asked to do something. He doesn't seem to need anything. And he does not want to talk to you or, God forbid, offends you with a word - it would be better if he were silent! Thoughts about family and children somehow by themselves came to a dead end - you no longer feel that you can rely on him.
It is not clear what keeps you together - the remnants of a former feeling or the fear of loneliness, children or your usual way of life, or maybe pity? And what to do next, how to understand, leave or stay? After all, the years go by … Yuri Burlan's training "System-Vector Psychology" helps not only to understand your feelings, but also to clearly understand what to do.
Destructive insecurity
The first step is to understand the importance of your own attitude towards the relationship. When you yourself are not sure of your desire to continue the relationship with this particular man, he immediately, unconsciously, also loses this confidence. This is due to the nature of the relationship between a man and a woman.
He always wants to pass on his gene pool, and perhaps this is only in a monogamous relationship, because any man wants to be sure that his child is being born. And only a loving woman can guarantee this - after all, she wants to belong only to him. This is important for a man, even if you have not planned children yet. And this is not male egoism, it is the basis for building relationships that allow you to preserve a person as a species.
Love, the sensual return of a woman gives a man that base, without which it would be impossible to build relationships, to trust her. As soon as you stop being sure that you are choosing him, he loses confidence in you, can no longer build relationships, respond to glimpses of your feelings and attempts to reanimate something. Your insecurity is the first step down, from which the relationship starts to go down. You hesitate and stop investing in the relationship - and so does he. Only mutual demands remain. Dead end.
Why we lose confidence in our relationship
There are only two main options here. Your partner is not really the right fit for you, and the relationship has run out of steam. And the second one is much more frequent! - you have lost emotional closeness, stopped feeling a friend of a friend. A sensual bond in a couple is built by a woman. It is she who creates it when she shares her feelings, experiences about the past and present, trusting her husband, as the most bosom friend. All other arguments are just rationalizations. Two loving people can handle any challenge. But as soon as the emotional connection weakens, the person ceases to be the only one for which you are ready for anything. By the way, this is where the reasons for the vast majority of adultery lie.
When the emotional connection is cut off, you become strangers to each other. When the natural attraction that was released to the couple for a very short time also leaves, then nothing keeps you together. But! This does not mean at all that you could not create an amazing relationship, because the main thing is to know "where it broke" and "what to fix".
How to interrupt the alienation that has arisen
You need to understand - does the relationship have potential? For this, it is important to see a man as he is - not through the prism of accumulated bad experience or your expectations, but through understanding his psyche as it is.
Is it developed in its properties (which means it is able to realize itself, to take place in society) or not very much. If developed enough (and often it is), then temporary bad states due to accumulated dissatisfaction are not a hindrance. A man will be able to fulfill his masculine role, provide you with a sense of security and safety and respond to your love with action and feeling, as soon as you create the conditions for this.
At the training "System-Vector Psychology" you will be able to figure it out without someone's "good" advice, based on the knowledge gained about the human soul.
Remember, a woman always takes the first step
The conditions to which a man responds, even if not immediately, but almost always, if he is normal, is your sincere desire to build relationships with him, your confidence and desire to love him, so to speak, the readiness to “surrender to him, forgetting about yourself”. The training of Yuri Burlan will help you to come to this state, let go of the grievances and disappointments acquired, open up in your feelings and sexually, see your loved one again.
As a result of awareness of the psyche, all the features of a loved one, so different from yours, acquire a completely different meaning. For example, behind the annoying slowness, you stop seeing the bore and the brakes, but you see a reliable man, devoted to you and your family, who can be caring both in everyday life and in bed. Behind the silence, you realize not indifference to you, but the depth of thought and already understand how to create contact with an absolute introvert. You will understand the nature of your conflicts and can easily avoid stress. Understand your man's inner aspirations and feel the urge to make him happy.
The training will help you understand the key points of building relationships that you might not even know about. For example, the importance of a common table, a beautiful tradition of a common meal. As a result of the training, very often even couples ready to divorce realize that they simply did not know each other, made mistakes not out of malice, but out of ignorance, and literally fall in love with each other again, even if one of you is taking the training.
And even if you eventually realize the opposite - that a person does not really suit you, you will be able to let him go without pain, part with the least loss, without mutual reproaches and hatred.
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