Autism. Part 1. Causes of occurrence. Raising a child with autism
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Part 2. Motor stereotypes and excessive tactile sensitivity in a child with autism: reasons and recommendations for parents
- Part 3. Protest reactions and aggression of a child with autism: causes and methods of correction
- Part 4. Life is illusory and real: special symptoms in children with autism
- Part 5. Speech disorders in autistic children: systemic causes and methods of correction
- Part 6. The role of the family and environment in the upbringing of autistic children
When a child is diagnosed with autism, parents sometimes cannot contain all the pain, confusion, guilt and helplessness that befall them overnight. As if through a deaf cotton wool in the ears, the questions of psychiatrists sound "will you register a disability?" What kind of disability, to whom? Who is disabled, my child? The mind refuses to believe what is happening.
Memories of his birth are still fresh in his memory. Born on time, with normal height and weight, from the hospital they were greeted with flowers. An ordinary, healthy baby was born, a joy for the whole family. Like all children, he began to hold his head, sit, get up and walk. When and what went wrong?
Of course, he was a little different from other children - he preferred solitude, had little contact even with loved ones, but people are different! Is this a reason to state that my child will never be able to live a full life, to be a normal member of society?
And a feverish search for specialists, methods, medicines, prayers, enlightened elders and healers with a good reputation begins. Should there be a way out somewhere? Is there any explanation for what is happening to my child? Where to find this key?
Features of a child with autism. What you need to know
There really is an explanation for what is happening, and parents intuitively correctly feel: the answer is that "all people are different." System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan distinguishes people by psychological characteristics and explains that children with a diagnosis of autism have a special type of psyche, the so-called. sound vector. Their peculiarity is that such children have supersensitive hearing. They not only hear better than others, but also react extremely painfully to loud sounds.
Defense reaction of the psyche
So, if, being pregnant, the mother dances at discos, attends concerts or turns on music very loudly in front of the child, if the parents scandal in the presence of the baby, then this causes severe trauma to the child's psyche with a sound vector.
Receiving such injuries, he closes off from the outside world, withdraws into himself and loses the ability to contact. This is the defensive reaction of an immature child's psyche to pain. Retreating into himself, he no longer perceives the speech addressed to him and cannot develop normally.
In this case, not only the sound, but also other vectors of the child suffers. After all, each person is the owner of at least two, and more often 3-4 vectors. Each vector has its own set of innate desires and properties that need development. Let's see from the point of view of system-vector psychology, how this is reflected in the behavior of the child.
Development features. If the child cannot sit still
So, the skin vector informs the child of great motor activity, interest in the benefits and benefits, which, with proper development, allows him to give birth to an engineering thought, to design something with enthusiasm. But sound trauma and autism, as its consequence, distort the development of the child's skin vector: instead of creative creation, we observe motor disinhibition, the inability to concentrate. In a severe form of autism, such a child simply moves randomly around the room, picks up and immediately throws objects. Experts call this "field behavior". SVP helps to understand its causes.
Understanding the essence of the vector, we get to the cause of the behavior deviations. This makes it possible to direct the natural properties of the vector in the right way, to help the development of the child. So, instead of sedatives, a hyperactive child with a skin vector can be offered a constructor, tasks for the account and a frequent change of tasks. (More details in the following articles, as well as already at the introductory lectures on SVP).
Stubbornness and lethargy
A child with an anal vector, with the correct development, has an incredible perseverance and ability to concentrate, he does everything slowly, but carefully and accurately. Autism makes a destructive contribution to the development of the anal vector: a child appears before us who performs the same actions for hours, is inactive, extremely stubborn and takes hostility even to an attempt to offer him a new type of food.
Is there a way out of this situation? How can you help a child get out of a state of such deep introversion, which becomes incompatible with normal life in society?
Raising a child with autism. We take into account the needs
With knowledge of system-vector psychology, we can very accurately understand the potential and mental characteristics of the child and know what impact will be beneficial for him, and which will only aggravate the situation.
You need to talk with the owner of the sound vector in a quiet, calm, benevolent voice. He is better than others able to determine intonations and is much more willing to pay attention to quiet sounds, but noise and an increase in tone are painful effects for him.
For the harmonious development of a sound engineer, it is necessary to provide an environment in which there are no loud sounds. Quiet classical music, on the contrary, helps him to concentrate.
When addressing a child, keep in mind that he needs much more time to react, as if to get out of the state of immersion in himself. Therefore, you should not rush him or raise your voice to "shout." Complete psychological comfort and a painless environment are important to him, so that this “going outside” takes place altogether.
If, in addition to the sound, the child has a skin vector - he needs to be given the opportunity to work with sensory material (shape, texture, size) and gradually, through imitation of an adult, teach construction. Physical activity is also important for skin children, just sitting on the couch with benefits will not allow him to develop adequately.
An audiophile with an anal vector should never be rushed. Otherwise, stubbornness and protest reactions will only intensify. Such a child hardly accepts a change in the usual routine, any change in tasks or activity should occur gradually.
It is with the children of this vector set that numerous stories of parents are associated that the diagnosis of the child was suspected as a result of an attempt to take the child out on vacation or in conditions when the family changed their place of residence. An anal-sound child with autism in this situation reacts with an extreme form of protest, refuses to eat and sleep in a new place. Such children are very conservative; they need to be gradually taught to visit new places or eat new food.
How to maximize your child's potential
At the training on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, you will be able to thoroughly understand the peculiarities of the psyche of your child. Why does he behave this way, what approach does he need. This will minimize the negative reactions of the child and will make it possible to find the key to his inner world, to develop the only correct approach to teaching and educating your baby, taking into account all his natural characteristics.
The experience of using system-vector psychology proves that children with autism can be helped! Watch video reviews, parents who have undergone training by Yuri Burlan tell about the removal of the diagnosis of autism in children:
Reviews of specialists working with autistic children can be found at the links: https://www.yburlan.ru/results/review335 and
You can learn how to help your child achieve the maximum disclosure of their abilities at the lectures on systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan. Register for a free series of introductory lectures here.
- Part 2. Motor stereotypes and excessive tactile sensitivity in a child with autism: reasons and recommendations for parents
- Part 3. Protest reactions and aggression of a child with autism: causes and methods of correction
- Part 4. Life is illusory and real: special symptoms in children with autism
- Part 5. Speech disorders in autistic children: systemic causes and methods of correction
