How to break up with a boyfriend
Unfortunately, and perhaps fortunately, there is no direct answer to the question of how to break up with a guy. That is, of course, there is - just run away, and that's it. But the essence of the question is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. The real answer lies in the psychological characteristics of the one who asks such a question …
The first date was amazing. This guy, restaurant, candles and twilight at the table. And the conversation - eye to eye - my heart skips a beat from the feeling of the mystery of a new relationship! Then there was the first kiss, the first gift, the first sex. And then … how not offensive, but so repeatable - the first scandal. And then the thought: we'd better leave.
It is not even clear where this thought comes from. Yes, this is not even a thought, but just a desire pouring out - you want to jerk and run from him straight down the street, wherever your eyes are looking. Of course he's catching up. Of course, peace is declared. But not for long. And the thought comes back over and over again. More and more often. From a subconscious desire it turns into a very specific question - how to break up with a guy?
And only one clue smolders inside. “How is he without me? I'm sorry for the guy. Who needs it? I love”- such thoughts tirelessly rush through my head, piercing one another. Forcing a woman to doubt and worry more and more.
At one moment she will run, but he will not hold.
And there will be one more small tragedy in life. But everything could be different.
Maybe we'd better break up?
Unfortunately, and perhaps fortunately, there is no direct answer to the question of how to break up with a guy. That is, of course, there is - just run away, and that's it. But the essence of the question is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. The real answer lies in the psychological characteristics of the one who asks such a question.
The fact is that the desire to leave arises in the soul of a certain psychological type of girls more often and easier than any others. This is easily observable: millions of women get married, have children, and even if they get divorced, they often do not want to. And husbands are not the best, but live. Right or wrong doesn't matter. The fact remains.
But among all the rest there is a special girl. Beautiful, affectionate, gentle. With a fragile, impressionable soul. Quick-tempered, but quickly appeased. And very emotional. She is the owner of two vectors - skin and visual.
Her soul asks for strong emotions, outbursts of love, romance, impressions; from the stability of life and the evenness of feelings, she quickly begins to get bored, she needs dynamics. And in a relationship with one guy, everything very quickly becomes monotonous and turns into a nasty way of life.
At first, I just want to change it, but it doesn't work. To the question "Do you love me?" no passionate answer follows. Then thoughts switch to another channel. I would like to make the guy jealous, so that he would pay more attention, so that with all his heart. Then thoughts about diversity in sexual relations come: in an unusual place, or maybe even … together with a third? But the guy is happy with everything as it is.
And her soul begins to yearn. Along the "light air swing", on which one would like to swing with a loved one in bliss and romance. Instead, it turns out quite the opposite. You don't swing on a swing. You fall from them. And they hit hard on the head. Tantrums begin, and all dreams of beautiful love gradually melt away.
And then she comes - the thought: we must part. Now, immediately! Run!
But this desire is not even always real. In fact, it may just be rationalization to get his attention, to get a new intensity of emotions. And we are destroying viable relationships with our own hands.
And what do we really want? Do you want him to be different? How? I would like to change: in him, in a situation, in a pair? Which ones? What is the goal and, most importantly, how to achieve it?
Until the girl herself understands herself, it is unlikely that it will be possible to build a real relationship. But these issues can be understood. For real.
He's a good guy, she's a good girl. Shouldn't they start all over again?
A woman wants to love and be loved. Yes, she wants a lot more: friends, entertainment, a career. But still, first of all, she wants a relationship with a guy. Beautiful, kind, sincere. To overflow love and passion. So that without pain and despondency.
This kind of relationship doesn't work out by itself. They are being built. In a certain way. It is this construction site that can be another quest full of great discoveries and new impulses. No one will be bored: neither a girl nor a guy. But not from hysterics. And from real Love.
The main thing is just not to run away before you can see it. By the way - yes, everyday life remains and there is no escape from it. With or without this guy, and the dishes will have to be washed anyway. You often forget about it when you start running. But you have to resort to the same way of life. Only now alone.
How to break up with a guy, or rather, boredom in a relationship?
What is needed for this? Yes, just a little: before you strive to part, you need to really understand your desires. Subconscious, of course. And take a closer look at your boyfriend's soul.
How to do it? Only yesterday knowledge of psychoanalysis was available only to a limited number of people. Today everything is different. Any person can become his own psychologist, having received knowledge at the trainings "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan. The presentation of information at these trainings is simple, accessible, using examples that are recognizable in everyday life.
Does this really work? Already many people have tried it. And they wrote their stories about it - there are already more than 1100 of them. Read them in the section "Relationships and love".
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