How to maintain a relationship with a loved one. When the flame of love never goes out
Practice shows: all external recommendations on how to maintain and improve relationships with a man either do not work, or they can improve the situation only for a while …
What to do when, looking into his eyes, you realize that more than anything else you want to return the closeness that was between you until recently? How to maintain a relationship with your beloved man and never again lose what binds you?
On the Internet, you can find various recommendations. For example, you will be offered to try to dilute the routine in a relationship: change the environment, get out to a new place, arrange a romantic evening, fill the time spent together with positive. Tips on how to spice up a relationship include style changes, wardrobe upgrades, hairstyles, anything external. And they are silent about how to calm down, get into a good state and be able to find a common language with your man again.
Practice shows: all external recommendations on how to maintain and improve relationships with a man either do not work, or can improve the situation only for a while.
Returning love is not easy, but possible. We will talk about this in this article.
Bad relationship with husband: reasons for chilling
As Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology explains, the beginning of a relationship is a period when the sexual attraction of a man and a woman is so great that the brain seems to turn off and you do not notice anything but the merits of each other.
This period may vary in length, but usually no more than 3 years. Then the sex drive weakens - which is why relationships become routine. Then reality appears to your gaze. It turns out that your loved one also has disadvantages: those character traits and habits that annoy or offend you and with which you cannot put up.
For example, you want to be in public more often, go to theaters or clubs, or at least visit. And you can't get him out of the house: he doesn't understand your interest. He is offended by your attempts to get out somewhere, and you are annoyed by his obstinacy in the desire to stay at home.
Or, for example, you are a very sensitive and emotional person. It is important for you to share your experiences. But every time you tell him what worries you, you do not get any response in return: he is always busy with some of his own affairs, and that you feel like he doesn’t care.
Finding out the relationship with a man or trying to remake him does nothing. Another solution is needed …
How to take your relationship to the next level
As Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology says, initially any problems in relationships arise due to our difference. The fact is that we never choose our copies - this is how nature intended.
We always get along with a person who is different from us in his innate properties. In system-vector psychology, these properties are called vectors. And if in the candy-bouquet period all these differences fade into the background: our discontent is more than covered by the force of attraction, then later they sharply make themselves felt. We begin to "bang our heads" - to be offended, annoyed, emotionally blackmailing or withdrawing. We begin to wait and demand from the partner what, in principle, he cannot give us. This becomes the reason for the gradual split.
The key to answering the question of how to improve the relationship between a man and a woman (be it a spouse or an unmarried couple) lies in recognizing these differences.
So, if your man is a couch potato, then he is the owner of the anal vector. Family, children are his greatest values. Unhurried, thorough, diligent, loyal and honest. He is not tempted to go to visit or to a club, but in potential he is the best husband and father, a homely owner and a real pro in his business. If you support his strengths, then a more reliable and caring husband simply cannot be found.
But what about the one who doesn't seem to care about your feelings? It is about a man with a skin vector. He is a man of action, he cannot sit in one place for a long time, he needs movement, dynamics, development. He will not waste time talking long about your feelings. But he is the best earner, he will earn good money and provide for you and your family.
If you endlessly pull the first one, then you will get a stubborn ram, a sadist and a sofa-sitter, always offended at you and at life. If you try to seat the second next to you, then expect jealousy and betrayal.
Taking a relationship to the next level is not forcing yourself to be silent when he is annoying, and not forcing yourself not to be offended when he offends. This is based on a complete understanding of its features, to stop being annoyed and offended in principle.
Internal reasons
"Scratching" about the misunderstanding of a partner, trying to remake him, we get our own injuries and cracks. We cease to feel confident, the ground seems to be leaving from under our feet. Against this background, our behavior can become completely inadequate.
We check how strong our relationship is, by hysterics, emotional blackmail, attempts to make him jealous, denial of sexual intimacy. What tricks we do not go for "educational purposes". At the same time, we ourselves suffer from emotional stress, fears, resentments, and fall into depression.
Therefore, the second part of taking relationships out of their dive is rehabilitating ourselves. It is necessary to understand who we are, what our strength is, to feel like women again.
Even if you find yourself in the most difficult, sick relationships, with the consumer attitude of a man to a woman or in a love triangle, system-vector psychology will allow you to rectify the situation.
10 secrets to building harmonious relationships
How to keep love in a long-term relationship? How to get married after a long relationship? In addition to clarifying your innate characteristics, there are other important ingredients here. In particular, understanding the role of a woman in a couple, how she can induce a man to move, to become desirable again.
With system-vector psychology, you will see in advance what scenario of relationships awaits you with your man. You will understand how they will develop and how to build a truly healthy, longest relationship. Here is what women who have tried the method of system-vector psychology write on themselves:
“In our family there were constant scandals, complaints, grievances, complete mutual misunderstanding. After the training, it began to decrease, while mutual understanding, on the contrary, increased. It was not a sudden insight, it was gradually, as if we were developing our relationship anew.
After several months, I can say that it is thanks to Systemic Vector Psychology that my family survived. This is not an exaggeration, because there have already been talks about divorce, we were kept together by and large only by the child. And now there are no scandals, no complaints. We are completely different people, but at the same time we see that we are different, and this is now our charm. We are now, not like a cat and a dog, but as an addition to each other, and our relations are now, as it were, on a different level."
“Honestly, I came to the training with one single goal - to improve relationships with a loved one. There were many questions that I asked myself: why there is no understanding between us, why the values are so different (attributed to upbringing), why he can be offended for years and thinks that this is normal, clings, criticizes and blames me for everything, and I'm already on the next day I don't remember the insult, unless I wind myself up? Maybe he needs another girl like him, and I need a young man like me.
I did not have time to read the reviews and results of the training, I immediately got to the lecture on the anal vector. I certainly did not expect this !!! I immediately received answers to almost all questions!
Well, then - more and more! I got much more than I expected."
Vera M., engineer
Tambov Read the full text of the result
“I sit, cry …))) Several months ago I was sitting in front of my broken life and tears also flowed … others …
Arriving at the training, I was sure that we could no longer save the relationship. And somewhere she was right. It so happened that I don't want to save what was before the training. Now a new relationship is developing with her husband. On a completely different level! And this is after twenty years of life together, which led to a complete misunderstanding, resentment. How is this possible???
Not only is there no trace of resentment and misunderstanding … Such an unreal closeness appears in our relations (sometimes even, after a long silence, we begin to say the same thing!))) After 20 years, we get to know each other again! Isn't this a MIRACLE ?!"
Veronica D., Wiel, Germany Read full result text
Remember - there are no 10 rules for maintaining a relationship. After all, we are all so different. Understanding yourself and your man is the secret of a long and happy relationship. You can learn more about this at the free online trainings System Vector Psychology. To participate, you need to register:
