There is no story sadder in the world than the story of Juliet sobbing. Causes of conspicuous suicide
“I don’t understand why I did this,” she laments and cries, and her pretty nose is all red and swollen, and her cheeks are covered with red spots …
Remember crybaby Myrtle from Harry Potter?
Now imagine a mom, a neighbor, or a friend. She is an attractive woman, but sometimes … Sometimes she begins to scream, gesticulate animatedly, at the height of her emotional storm, she runs to the bathroom, slams the door, turns on the water and starts crying. One day, in despair, she can fill the bath with water, lie down and cut her veins. But she is not one of those who knows that veins need to be cut lengthwise.
“I don’t understand why I did this,” she laments and cries, and her pretty nose is all red and swollen, and her cheeks are covered with red spots, “He suddenly became so far from me, and I could not tell him that I feel. And it was terrible. It was horror, panic. I didn't know what to do"
"I don't understand why I did this." Sometimes we all do not even understand ourselves, which is to say about close people, and even more so about familiar and barely familiar to us by chance encounters. Sometimes we do not understand our own feelings, therefore we are not able to understand the feelings of others, to take care of others. And we are not able to understand what kind of pain with our behavior we cause them, mental and headache.
We are all born with a set of certain mental properties, abilities and desires, which are called vectors in Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology. Combinations of vectors, the degree of their implementation and fullness create a unique personality. All our behavioral features are vectorially conditioned, but, undoubtedly, can be corrected due to the great inner work on self-awareness.
Childhood fears: the "skeleton in the closet" of an adult
A person with a visual vector is very vulnerable, the smallest incident can make him cry, and he is also easily frightened. And, whatever - dogs, spiders, cyclists, heights … the list goes on. Fear in the visual vector is a starting point, an innate base that can be transformed by proper development into a special sensuality, the ability to get real pleasure from love.
Fear and love are the range of the visual vector. Just as in the process of embryonic development, the embryo briefly undergoes phylogenesis - that is, the evolution of the species from the most distant ancestors to the morphology of modern humans, so the psychic in us in childhood develops from an archetypal, basic, vector manifestation to a more mature and corresponding to the development of modern society …
These are visual children who are afraid of the dark and ask to leave them the included night light. In the dark, their sensor - the eyes - does not work. The unconscious fear of the dark is nothing more than the fear of death. A black hand under the bed or a maniac in the night - there is no difference, all these are tricks of the visual vector.
With the correct education of feelings, the visual person learns to take his fear out - he learns to worry and fear not for himself, but for others, creates emotional ties with other people. And under this condition, he is completely freed from the experience of fear for himself.
It often happens that the visual vector is developed, but not used for its intended purpose. When we are simply not taught to apply our innate high emotional amplitude outward, we lock ourselves into ourselves, we face the same problems as undeveloped visual people - we suffer from fears and phobias. And against their background we fall into love addictions, we try to achieve feelings for ourselves by emotional blackmail and hysterics, we yearn.
Reach the handle
So, when the spectator is not trained to properly handle his emotions, he demands: "Love me!" and complains: "Well, why don't you love me?" All the behavior of the spectator in this state is reduced to the demonstration of their shortcomings, tantrums, emotional blackmail.
When a spectator demands love from others, he calms down for a very short time. A little time passes and fears accumulate again, requiring smoothing out from the outside. "You do not love me!" - the spectator shouts in a frenzy, at this moment he thinks only of himself. He becomes very sorry for himself, poor and unfortunate, abandoned by everyone. And this self-pity heats up the degree of exaltation that the spectator achieves in his hysterics. And then the spectator decides to suicide blackmail.
“And when I was standing in the bathroom and crying, the thought came to me:“I will commit suicide! Let him know what he brought me to! " And I got a full bath of water. And then I felt sick and dizzy. I was scared as never before in my life. Overcoming myself, I climbed into the tub, grabbed a razor and slashed my wrist. Blood started to flow, just a little bit, only the water next to the cut turned slightly pink, and I lost consciousness. Because of fear. I felt so sorry for myself!"
Siucid in the visual vector is always demonstrative. The onlooker feels sorry for herself and wants others to share her emotion. And she decides to commit suicide, internally hoping to be saved. She doesn't close the bathroom door. She knows that he will come and save.
Other options for filling the visual vector
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan speaks about one important feature of a person with a visual vector - the need for a periodic change in emotional states. And this means that in life any spectator will be lifted to the very top, then lower down on emotional slides. The question is whether this will be going in the right direction or not.
So, a person fixated on himself, expecting love from others, will oscillate between states of exaltation (look at me, how beautiful I am, love me) - longing (no one loves me). A good option for changing emotional states for a visual person - from being filled with feelings, love (for another person, for life in principle) to light sadness and sadness (about someone, something).
The visual vector, like all other vectors, can be learned to use correctly. A person with a visual vector needs to learn to empathize with others.
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