So that talents do not die. How to get rid of stage fright and public speaking
You are the center of attention. Your arms, legs, voice, memory refuse to think about it. You forget the words, fingers lose mobility, teeth chatter, legs give way and tremble with small tremors …
Are you familiar with this situation? There is a concert ahead, your report on the work done, and in six months you begin to worry about how everything will go. Your hands are already getting cold and your breath gasps at the thought that you will be on stage. Because when you go out to it, you seem to fall into a parallel reality, where you hear only the loud beating of your own heart and, like a somnambulist, move to your calvary.
Everything else seems unreal. Sounds seem to be bogged down in a dense fog. Everything floats before my eyes, as in a nightmare. You are blinded by the bright light of lighting fixtures, and there, in the black pit of the auditorium, are sitting those whom you fear most - the audience. You try not to look there, but you know that they will only listen and look at you. You are the center of attention. Your arms, legs, voice, memory refuse to think about it. You forget the words, fingers lose mobility, teeth chatter, legs give way and tremble with small tremors.
All! You are already disgraced, because everyone has seen how afraid you are. You have not done anything yet, but you are already ashamed, because you are not up to par, you are not perfect, not perfect. And if you also made a mistake, then this is a shame for the rest of your life! You will never go on stage again. You will no longer be able to tell people what was so important to them. You cannot awaken their hearts with poem, music or fiery speech. You will not fulfill your destiny in this life.
Fear that gets in the way
Stage fright and public speaking is no joke. This is a cross on the realization of talent. And what could be more important for a person than the realization of his properties? After all, only this gives him an incomparable feeling of happiness and pleasure from life. To refuse realization is the same as not living.
When people experience stage fright, they often rationalize that "since I can't do it, then it's not mine." But for some reason, you still want to be there, to experience a crazy rise from everyone's attention and the subsequent gratitude, which can be expressed in different ways - in the form of flowers, admiration for talent, respect. In the end, you want to feel that life has not been lived in vain, that everything that fills you can be shared with other people.
We live among people and, one way or another, we must be able to be in the center of attention, to convey our thoughts to those around us. We can say that to some extent all life is a stage. Therefore, the problem of fear of public speaking becomes a real stumbling block for many people. Can anyone help in this case? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan argues that this is possible.
Emotionality inward and outward
System-vector psychology says that there are eight vectors - sets of innate mental properties of a person that determine his desires and abilities. As system-vector psychology explains, first of all, stage fright is characteristic of people with a visual vector. These are very emotional people, extroverts, who, moreover, in certain states are very fond of showing themselves, have a tendency to publicity, demonstrativeness. That is, these are exactly the people who, with the correct development of their properties, feel most organically on the stage, perform with pleasure, relaxed, freely, infecting the audience with their emotions, awakening empathy in them.
However, the properties of the visual vector may not be developed in childhood. This means that a child with a rich emotional potential was not taught to take their emotions out, to show their feelings. For example, a visual boy was forbidden to cry because "men don't cry." Or the parents simply didn’t have time to pay attention to the child, while the little spectator needs him especially badly, much more than other children. He definitely needs to express his emotions, and his parents have no time. Situations are different, but the result is always the same - the clogging of emotions inside.
Possessing a huge emotional amplitude, visual people often fall into its extreme states - the experience of incredible love at one end and the fear of death at the other. The latter has its root in our collective unconscious. The skin-visual woman was the daytime guard of an ancient human flock. She was the first to notice with her keen eyesight a lurking predator in the savannah and was frightened, emitting pheromones of fear. The strongest fear of death, which only this woman with great sensual potential could experience, saved the life of the flock. Then he was acquitted, but now he is still present in the psyche of visual people.
Spectators are naturally subject to the fear of death, which, in turn, is the cause of many other fears, including stage fright. The development of feelings, bringing them out to other people helps to get rid of this root fear, and at the same time from all other fears at once.
It is useless to persuade yourself and imagine that there are pumpkins instead of people in the hall. It is useless to beat the thresholds of public speaking courses, trying with regular training to get rid of the numbness that seizes you when you see the audience. You need to realize your properties and learn to direct them in the right direction. Stage fright goes away as soon as you manage to forget about yourself and focus your feelings on those to whom they are intended - on the audience.
I look like?
There is another factor that prevents visual people from feeling free on stage - this is fixation on their own appearance. They can look in the mirror for a long time. They are desperate for a small pimple on their nose. Having planted a stain on clothes, they make their way "along the wall" so that someone does not notice that something is wrong with them. Wrinkled trousers, spoiled hair, dirty shoes cause them a feeling of physical discomfort. Imagine now that dozens of people see the trembling hands of such a person, deathly pallor and shaking legs. This is horror!
Unhealthy self-focus is also a consequence of the poor state of the visual vector. Such a person only cares about presenting himself favorably, forgetting about the main thing for which he entered the stage - to show his talent, to share with people what he has learned.
But most often, failures associated with fixation on how he looks are manifested in a person in the presence of the anal-visual ligament of vectors. As Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology says, it is the anal vector that contributes to the fact that a person wants to see himself perfect, without flaws and shortcomings, and also so that other people see him that way. This is how anal perfectionism, the desire for perfection, is manifested.
The scene often exposes a person's inner clamps. A person loses his naturalness, so he does not always look attractive. And it can be very difficult for a person with an anal vector to accept. Rarely does he manage to forgive himself for moments of shame. And although from the point of view of the audience there may not be shame (it happens that they do not even notice that a person is very worried), but the visual vector of a person has already painted everything that happens in the darkest colors. The performer is already convinced that he was hopelessly bad on stage. Everything is lost! Finita la comedy! Spectators are big visionaries, inclined to "make an elephant out of a fly."
Trapped in bad experiences
An anal-visual person who has made a mistake at least once on stage in a state of strong visual exaltation may never go to it again. He will experience his own failure for a long time, to the extent that he will try to cut off ties with people who have seen his shame. Visually, he will dramatize the situation. In an anal way, constantly replay your failure in your head, unable to forgive yourself for what happened. There are prerequisites for this - the anal person has a very good memory, but, unfortunately, he remembers for a long time not only good, but also bad.
A bad experience can become a landmark for him in life, and he will forever put an end to the fact that he did not succeed once.
Fear of dishonor
There is also a category of people who, in principle, do not want to risk performing on stage. These are purely anal people. Performing on stage is not in the realm of their desires. They are introverts and are much more comfortable at home, with their family, or doing meticulous, precise work, rather than under the light of the stage. They don't rush to the stage. She is a stressful factor for them. And in stress, an anal person can fall into a stupor, up to the inability to move (when arms and legs fail). But as a scientist, analyst, teacher, he sometimes has to speak to the public. And here he can also be hindered by his own fear of disgrace, the nature of which is revealed by the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan.
Stress causes such a person to contract all the sphincters in the body. It is the anal person who loses his voice on stage from stress, as the throat sphincter contracts. But most of all, his most sensitive area suffers - the anal sphincter. Therefore, a state of prolonged stress leads to constipation in such a person. But sudden stress can lead to loss of control over the anal sphincter and cause diarrhea. This does not always happen, but subconsciously, an anal person is always afraid of this, afraid to be disgraced.
Our properties are given to us for happiness
Nature does not create defect. It is we who, through the misuse of our properties, turn our life into continuous suffering. Simply because we do not understand why we were created this way and why certain qualities are put into us. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan allows us to understand ourselves deeper.
We begin to see that our emotions have two poles - fear and developed sensuality, love. And in order not to be afraid, one must love. And not yourself, but another person. We are aware that the anal vector is given to us to pass on experience to the next generations, to perform high-quality work that society needs. Therefore, the memory of people with the anal vector is good, and perfectionism goes into action.
And this awareness is invaluable, because it changes life orientations, and bad states, including any fears, go away softly and naturally. So that we do not even notice how we have become different. Don't believe me? Read the feedback from those who completed the training:
“To begin with, the fears, which greatly interfered with life, gradually began to disappear! Many thanks to Yuri for this invaluable knowledge! In particular, the fear of public speaking decreased, and on stage I began to feel freer. The vision of the world has changed dramatically, I begin to feel people not as before (through the prism of my beliefs), but I really understand the motives of their actions! It's incredible! " Anastasia B., Moscow Read the full text of the result “And I have an amazing result!.. I conducted an open lesson with my colleague, and at the end of the event I showed a master class. And for the first time in my life I did not feel fear !!! I felt no fear !!! This is the first time this has happened to me! All the time my hands were shaking, stammering, my voice trembling, but this time I listen to myself - silence! It's calm inside! It's so cool! It was only joy that I can share my experience! " Olga K., teacher of additional education, Moscow Read the full text of the result
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