Sadism in the family. Part 2. Hurt me
Striving for a normal life, devoid of the violence that the owner of the skin vector experienced in childhood, she falls on the hook of an anal sadist who perfectly hides her sadistic inclinations.
Consciously, he may not even want to hurt his wife, but both of them will subconsciously create just such situations in which their unconscious desires will be realized. As a result, we have thousands of families where domestic violence is committed, and wives under various pretexts cannot leave their husbands. Consciously they suffer, but subconsciously they satisfy desires formed in distant childhood.
Part 1. I want to hurt you
After all, couples are not created on the basis that somewhere in heaven, some are prescribed to suffer, and others to enjoy a happy romantic relationship. Our unconscious motivates us in the choice of a partner.
The exact opposite of a person with an anal vector is the owner of the skin vector. It seems that between them there is a complete misunderstanding, and completely different values, and men and women with such different properties of the psyche are attracted to each other and create stable pairs.
But not only that. There are dermal women who are attracted to an anal man with frustrations and childhood mental trauma. These are the women who also once suffered from improper upbringing, who subconsciously have a masochistic scenario. In order to generally understand the owners of the skin vector, prone to masochism, let us consider their mental properties in more detail.
Movement is life
Since childhood, the owners of the skin vector are very mobile and active people. It is difficult for them to sit still. Flexible physically and mentally, normally such people fit most harmoniously into the hierarchical system of the structure of society, since they easily obey, but at the same time they perfectly control and limit others.
Their psyche easily adapts to changing circumstances. They are able to adapt to people, including their bosses. At the same time, they are the ones who strive to improve their social status and rise up the career ladder.
The owners of the anal vector, straightforward and honest people who are unable to easily adapt to the rapidly changing conditions of the modern skin world, “get out” and limit themselves for some “selfish” purposes, call the skinners “sycophants” and “sycophants”. The leather worker, on the other hand, will easily and without any agreements with his conscience adjust to the current requirements, if it is beneficial to him.
The owners of the skin vector strive to make as much money as possible. For millennia, they were earners, first as hunters and warriors, and then as traders, businessmen and engineers.
However, the lust for money and exorbitant restriction in everything can result in greed and stinginess. And then they have a chance to become the famous Scrooge McDuck, who has a large fortune, but saves every penny. A measure is needed in everything … And only the owners of the skin vector are able to feel it best of all, no matter how paradoxical it may be.
Owners of the skin vector, with good development and the realization of their desires, will never lie, play around, steal and substitute. They will achieve everything in a legal and honest way, compete with others on equal terms, seeking to show all their talents and abilities, and not create an illusion of them.
Stroke me with your belt
However, their life scenarios can go downhill due to the still practicing grandfather's parenting methods. If you disobeyed - get a slap, naughty - get your father's belt. The skin of the owner of the cutaneous vector is very delicate and sensitive. Any, even not the strongest, blows on it bring the child severe physical and mental pain. A parent with an anal vector, for whom this method of upbringing in childhood was not so traumatic, applying it to his child, makes him a loser, a thief, and a man with a masochistic script.
Our psyche does everything to preserve itself, but the psyche of the skin person is especially easy to adapt to existing external circumstances. A dermal child, constantly enduring violence against himself, flexibly adjusts to this circumstance. In response to pain, endogenous opiates are produced in the body, which help relieve pain and even get a sense of relief. With repeated beatings, this mechanism is fixed, the child's psychosexual development is inhibited. Instead of learning to get pleasure from developing and using his skin properties, he adapts to pain, learning to extract some semblance of pleasure from pain, which he then subconsciously searches for his whole life.
Undergoing verbal humiliation, the owner of the skin vector in the future may constantly fail in the realization of his desires for career growth and earnings, because his subconscious mind will enjoy precisely the fact that he is failing. If in childhood such a person experienced systematic beatings, then in adulthood, even without consciously wanting it, he will seek physical pain.
With the awareness of these features of the psyche, the beaten skinner can begin to realize these desires in the sexual sphere, which, in fact, will be the most favorable way out for him. After all, what does anyone care about what happens in the bedroom when it is done by mutual consent? Having played his sadomasochistic games at home, the owner of the skin vector will go to conquer society, moving up the career ladder or defending his client in court.
At the same time, not every skinner is able to endure his subconscious desires to receive pain in the sexual sphere. We have certain prejudices and constraints that prevent us from accepting such desires. As a result, striving for a normal life, devoid of violence, which the owner of the skin vector experienced in childhood, she falls on the hook of an anal sadist, who perfectly hides her sadistic inclinations.
Consciously, he may not even want to hurt his wife, but both of them will subconsciously create just such situations in which their unconscious desires will be realized. As a result, we have thousands of families where domestic violence is committed, and wives under various pretexts cannot leave their husbands. Consciously they suffer, but subconsciously they satisfy desires formed in distant childhood.
Where is the exit? There is an exit
However, one should not assume that with such life scenarios we will never see a happy family life. More often than not, it is enough to realize what drives us for the situation to change. It is certainly not worth staying with a sadist who takes pleasure in abusing his wife. If this was not the only blow in a fit of anger, but systematic beatings, one must run away from such a person. Such people are very difficult to change.
It is important to know that as a result of Yuri Burlan's understanding of the reasons for his behavior at the training, it is possible to completely change the formed scenario. The desire for pain goes away, the victim ceases to be a victim and no longer attracts the sadist, her relationship develops according to a new scenario, favorably.
The scenario of a person with sadistic inclinations also changes radically if he undergoes training in system-vector psychology. Awareness of frustrations, their real desires and capabilities helps to change the internal state, perception of the world and life itself …
With residual manifestations of masochism, BDSM sex games can be used to relieve social and family life from the desire for pain, but only for mild forms and only after awareness. Because in the case of expressed sadistic desires on the part of the partner, he is not necessarily able to control the degree of pain inflicted. Experiencing voluptuousness from violence, he seeks to go to the end, and this is extremely dangerous.
Already at the free lectures on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, you can learn a lot about people with anal and cutaneous vectors and see what lies on the surface, but is not realized by us. Register for a free online training at the link and acquire knowledge to consciously manage your life.
