My cornflower blue friend … he's a "friend"
How? Such a handsome and enviable groom is not interested in girls? After all, this is immoral and contrary to nature!
He is sophisticated, bright, knows how to take care of himself, and will always give advice on what shade of blue is in trend this season. He takes me to Monet's exhibitions and concerts of his favorite foreign artists. You will never get bored with him, because he knows all the most popular places in our city, and as soon as he sees my sour face, he immediately pulls me out to “freshen up”. If not for him, I would never have known that the mustard color turns me yellow, and the burgundy one emphasizes my individuality.
Having met him on the street, it is impossible not to glance at the smartly dressed young man, as if he had stepped off a glossy cover. The scarf is always slightly casually wrapped around his long swan neck, and the sunglasses are exactly the shape that perfectly emphasizes his cheekbones. As soon as I need to buy a new dress, I know who to call on a shopping trip, and who will definitely not refuse me. We spend all summer evenings with him, dancing in the open areas of the capital's parks. We walk along the embankment and every weekend we go to the theater club, where he has been soloing for several years in a row.
I value his opinion, he always helps me in difficult times when support and warmth are so necessary. He pours over me with a bottle of tart wine and a box of my favorite chocolate, and I cry all night on his shoulder after another breakup with a guy. He consoles me with stories of his unsuccessful love adventures, and even in such a form that not tears of sadness flow from his face, but tears caused by uncontrollable laughter. This person is my best friend, my personal psychologist and stylist.
My hero
Passers-by throw envious glances at us when we walk hand in hand and laugh merrily, remembering another comedy we watched or a funny moment from our favorite melodramas. My personal Brad Pitt will gladly hug me in front of everyone to infuriate envious girls. And how elegantly he can look after! And the door will open, and the chair will move, and take me from the airport.
You may ask me, why are we not a couple, since we are so close? It's simple. I'm not his type, as, in principle, all female representatives are. So my best friend is actually my best friend, no less elegant and no less charming than any of my acquaintances. He was simply born a boy, not a girl, and could not meet the aspirations of his father - he did not become a "real man". Now we are both grieving with him about our guys and discussing new photos of Kim Kardashian.
I do not blame him for who he likes and whom he loves, because this is his life. My friends sometimes, having learned his orientation, are horrified and indignant. How? Such a handsome and enviable groom is not interested in girls? After all, this is immoral and contrary to nature! However, before drawing such conclusions, it is worth understanding why a person is such, what distinguishes him from others and whether he is. We tend to jump to conclusions and stigmatize people according to our own set of values. We often find it very difficult to look at a situation from the outside, discarding all our prejudices. And Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, which reveals the human psyche through eight vectors, can help us with this.
Sharks of the modern world
The owners of the skin vector are the true embodiment of the hunters of the past, only now they are the sharks of the business world and the consumer society as a whole. Their main task, in fact, a specific role, has formed over the millennia and includes both the acquisition of material wealth and the transformation of society, the introduction of new technologies: simplification of production methods and methods, the design of both aircraft and machine tools, the formation of new laws and financial empires.
These are people who have excellent control over their bodies, have a flexible psyche, ideally adapting to the constant changes of the modern world, which they also create in many ways. Their libido is balanced because it is small. Through their pursuit of limitation and economy, they strive to transform space as much as possible and fully control time. It is they who are able to sit on diets for years, accurately calculate the travel time to the minute, calculate all income and expenses to a penny, create laws governing our rights and obligations, build a business and perfectly organize the work of their subordinates. They create a modern society, standardized according to general rules, and feel like a fish in water in it. Career, competition, income, success are practically the mantra of every owner of the skin vector.
Full of feelings
The visual vector gives its owner a high emotionality, a sense of beauty and amazing imagination. Representatives of this vector feel the fear of death most of all, and largely because of this, at all times they were not capable of killing. In childhood, this fear manifests itself most strongly: a visual child cannot fall asleep without a night light or is frightened by any rustle in a dark room. It is difficult for him to overcome this feeling himself, but with the right development he learns to take fear out - into compassion and a feeling of love for other people.
The carriers of the visual vector are amazing people who are able to give us their care and warmth, to comfort us in difficult times, creating an atmosphere of trust and understanding. That is why many owners of the visual vector become teachers, doctors and psychologists, who absolutely need to be imbued with the problems of other people in their profession as their own.
Thanks to their keen eyes, they perceive thousands of shades of colors. They subtly feel the beauty of the world around them, admire it and embody it in their beautiful works of art. They sing to us from the stage and dance for us, delighting the hearts of their fans and inspiring new achievements. They, masters of emotions, play dozens of roles in theater and cinema, getting used to other people's lives, stories and tragedies. Every visual person tries on thousands of masks, turning fantasies into reality. They are romantics and muses, artists and educators. These are the most sincere and loving people.
However, like any coin, they have a second, "reverse" side. In negative states, visual people are capable of exhausting tantrums, are afraid of their own shadow, and sometimes become victims of maniacs, sadists or members of sects.
Root of Destiny
Fear is the root from which the whole essence of the visual person grows. How the "tree" of their psyche will grow, what its fruits will be - poisoned by the fear of death or juicy and sweet from love for people - depends on the development of the vector in childhood. And skin-visual men are no exception. They are born with the strongest fear of death - the unconscious fear of being eaten by cannibals.
But why are these young men experiencing just such fear? This can be explained by looking into the distant past, when beautiful sensual men did not yet show off on posters and did not sing on stage, spinning their heads to young fans.
Then, millennia ago, when the goal of people was only to survive in a wild cruel world, men incapable of killing were considered a burden to society. Too beautiful, too gentle and emotional, they were alien to the world of war and violence. Therefore, they were sacrificed, having neither time to make a significant contribution to the development of society, nor to know the delights of family life. It was the dermal-visual men who became victims, over whom the act of ritual cannibalism was performed.
However, even after cannibalism was a thing of the past, the basic principles of society remained the same, and there was no place for beautiful men in it. The only thing left for them was prostitution, which provided, to some extent, the feeling of safety and security that they needed. They themselves were not able to protect themselves in view of their natural characteristics.
The queen gave birth to either a son or a daughter at night
However, in the 20th century, skin-visual men got the opportunity to develop and realize themselves in society. Today they take part in dance competitions, play in theater and cinema, become sex symbols of a global scale, who are loved and admired.
However, not everywhere and not always the owners of such a bundle of vectors can realize their abilities and fully integrate into society. Sometimes parents, not noticing the natural features of their child, break his psyche. After all, the father so wants his "girl" to become a "real man."
Hearing comparisons with girls, feeling calmer in a girl's company, where there is no need to fight and compete with their peers for a "place in the sun", skin-visual boys begin to wonder if nature has made a mistake by placing their gentle souls in these male bodies.
Fearing, like any visual child, every rustle and shadow, dermal-visual boys try on women's clothes to hide from the "cannibal pursuing them." After all, girls do not eat! They feel safe with "full outfit" and get used to a feminine, comfortable image for themselves. As they become adult men, in some cases they may secretly wear their wife's panties, or they may become transvestites or dream of a sex change.
Significant other
However, it may happen that the skin-visual boy finds a different path for himself. Having met a strong man who will offer him protection from all haters of this world, the owner of this set of vectors can be imbued with tender feelings for him and enter into a relationship with him based not on attraction, but on a sense of security and safety, on an emotional connection.
We call them homosexuals, but in reality they have no natural attraction to either men or women. However, with a high emotional amplitude, capable of the purest feeling of love, dermal-visual men can sincerely love both representatives of their own sex and the opposite. Their life scenario already plays a role here.
They will endow their chosen one with emotions, inspire to accomplishments and strive to support in all endeavors while they experience emotional attachment. In fact, they are not "natural" homosexuals and, as stated above, have no attraction to men.
Attraction to the representatives of the same sex is experienced only by the owners of the anal vector who have either frustrations or some peculiarities in psychosexual development. However, this article deals only with their "other halves" - dermal-visual boys seeking protection in this cruel world.
Other horizons
With the right upbringing, when the child is helped to develop his strengths, the skin-visual boy grows up to be a real man and feels himself according to his gender. He plays in the theater and in the cinema, embodying the images of the heroes of his favorite novels or brutal characters from the TV series of the 90s, sings on stage, becomes a style icon or connoisseur of art, and maybe even quite well to realize himself in the business sphere.
Now the time has come for skin-visual men - the standards of male beauty and attractiveness. Persecuted for thousands of years, now they occupy a pedestal of fame and become idols of thousands of women and men. And in the near future a new round of culture awaits us from these sensual men, because they are able to be the best psychotherapists, healers of human souls.
Today we need to accept and understand these amazing people, so beautiful in their sensual nature. Thanks to systemic vector psychology, we can now see the reason for the formation of their life scenario, look at them in a new way and naturally discard our dislike.
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