Why I Fall in Love with Losers, or How to Find a Good Guy
We and our parents often grow up with a false attitude: only weaklings cry, it is a bad tone to show feelings. We learn to be restrained in public, not to cry "over trifles", not to empathize with the heroes of books or films. And we get another barrier: the prohibition on expressing feelings, which subsequently significantly affects our happiness in a couple.
Beauty, clever, and unlucky in love. The first was a poor student, and never finished his studies. The second is hard-working, but drank. The third constantly got into bad stories: either they were deceived or they were kicked out of work. What a bad fate: attracting losers?
Why do some women meet outsiders all the time? How to find and love a good person? Let's solve the problem systematically.
"Tili-tili-dough!", Or Laughed feeling
Yuri Burlan at the training "System-Vector Psychology" suggests that a persistent tendency to start a relationship with the desire to pull, save a man from a difficult situation indicates a certain barrier in the expression of feelings. Let's take a closer look.
Imagine, an amorous girl, the owner of the visual vector, does not hesitate to show her sympathy for the boy. But adults are not always sensitive to children's feelings. "What did you come up with, what kind of love is at 6 years old ?!" - in between times mom, dad or teacher will say. They really have a lot of worries. They sincerely think that this is all frivolous, that she still has everything ahead. And for a girl, her feeling is her whole life at the moment. It is very serious. Very large. It fills her entire being from small toes in sandals to the very top of her head with a red polka-dot bow.
Mom said and did not even pay attention, or even discussed it, laughing, with someone in front of her daughter. And the daughter at that moment was at the peak of emotions. And when such a significant person for her, like her mother, laughs at her feelings or speaks out in some way negatively, he thereby devalues the most precious thing in the life of a little girl. Tomorrow new events will displace the experienced pain from the memory, and it will go into the subconscious. One case, another … And in the unconscious, in front of the ocean of love, there is a dam, which closes the outlet of feelings of a rather big visual beauty.
Not only adults, but also peers are completely indelicate to each other's feelings. "Masha loves Pashka … Tili-tili-dough, bride and groom!" Classmates with their giggles add fuel to the fire. They make so much fun, they joke so vulgarly that Pashka himself laughs evilly at Masha, who was ready to give her life for him - she loved so much.
"Roar-cow!", Or Ban on feelings
"Don't you dare cry, daughter, a woman must be strong!"
“Why are you crying? It's a movie, everything is invented there! Found something to cry about!"
“I only read books and watch movies alone because I don’t want anyone to see me cry over them. It is not customary in our family to express feelings."
Tears are not bad, they are not weakness. Tears are the ability to empathize, love, compassion. “Tears are our strength,” says Yuri Burlan at the training “System-vector psychology”. But we and our parents often grow up with a false attitude: only weaklings cry, showing feelings is a bad form. We learn to be restrained in public, not to cry "over trifles", not to empathize with the heroes of books or films. And we get another barrier: the prohibition on the expression of feelings.
The little girl has grown up. She is already an adult, she wants to love, but obstacles stand in the way of her natural desire: a ban on the expression of feelings, false attitudes, the pain of devalued, ridiculed love. The desire is there, but there is no way out. To love is a shame. And then … pity remains. Then the woman finds a compassionate man: a bummer, a drunkard, a loser. And sympathy for the one who is outside of life triggers the feeling of love a second time - otherwise it simply cannot fall in love!
How to love a good guy
At the training "System Vector Psychology" a woman gets the opportunity to understand the scenario that pushed her into relationships with those who cause pity. Break down all barriers and barriers to expressing feelings. After all, when we find out what attitude hindered us, we remember where it came from, it loses its power over us.
Realizing that she was born to give love, the owner of the visual vector allows herself to feel, love, embody her emotional impulses. And do not feel inconvenience, embarrassment, shame at the same time. This returns her the ability to experience deep feelings - not only pity for the wretched, sick, loser, non-adaptive. And then it becomes possible for her to have a relationship with a person realized in society. After all, a successful man also needs to be loved and inspired to feats by a loving woman.
Come to the online training and allow yourself to experience the crazy feeling of mutual happy love.
