Sexual attraction: where does passion go and how to keep it
She pours out her soul to her beloved friend. He is a sexy stranger from the social network. And each other is left with mutual reproaches and grievances. Only in rare moments of reconciliation does the attraction reappear between them.
2 years ago, this room smelled of passion. Sexual attraction, like electricity, permeated two lovers, as soon as they meet their eyes or touch each other. Everything was so easy, relaxed and beautiful - it seemed that they were made for each other and will always be so. On those crazy nights, attraction kept me awake.
The same sofa, the same fireplace, the same bed … The same two, still in love, just as beautiful and sexy. But where did that strong sexual attraction, that crazy passion that raged between them 2 years ago?
This couple is one of the millions of couples who have lost the keenness of attraction to each other. Lost the magic of passion, the madness of love, which makes the heart beat faster and feel sexy, happy, needed, desired, alive, in the end.
In this article, you will find out why passion leaves, how to manage the magic of relationships, how to get your sex drive back even if it seems like it’s lost.
Anatomy of Sex Drive
When great love comes, it seems to us that this is forever. But in fact, nature guarantees us sexual attraction only for 2-3 years. So much time is needed to bear, give birth and nurse a baby.
And then addiction occurs - in the end, our body stops responding to the pheromones of a loved one. Lack of strong attraction leads to the fact that we continue to have sex out of habit, out of a sense of duty, sadly recalling the old days.
Sexual attraction weakens, and other priorities come to the fore - work, money, career, other affairs and events. Over time, conversations between couples become more casual and less intimate. Communication in general can be characterized as follows: they exchange news, routine kisses and everyday requests. With attraction and even trouble - more and more often they both feel too tired for a stormy night.
And life rages around, and I want to be happy. What to do? She pours out her soul to her beloved friend. He is a sexy stranger from the social network. And each other is left with mutual reproaches and grievances. Only in rare moments of reconciliation does the attraction reappear between them.
What was meant for two, they spilled in conversations with others.
"I want only you!" How to return attraction to sex life
System-vector psychology suggests that strong couples are built not only on sexual attraction - a deep emotional connection is a necessary component in a relationship.
How it happens at the beginning:
When their great love began, the most important thing for them was their communication - to get to know each other more and more, when they each discovered something about themselves that they did not tell others. Attraction at that time was maximum. Precious meetings, long conversations, exciting Skype messages, touching SMS.
Emotional connection is a continuous spiritual interpenetration, this is when we open our hearts to each other, letting our loved one into those corners of our inner world where outsiders are prohibited from entering.
You need to open up very carefully and gradually, so as not to injure your loved one, not to shock or push you away. It is best when this process is started by a woman. Sincerity evokes sincerity in response - in a couple there is tenderness, interest in each other, gratitude, trust and … attraction does not fade away.
Emotional intimacy is built gradually and gives more and more pleasure for two. It will not be the same natural attraction that was from the very beginning, but another, deeper and stronger feeling - as a derivative of spiritual closeness. Partners remain sexual to each other. You can express it with the words: "I want ONLY you, I don't need anyone else."
Signs of an emotional connection in a couple look simple to others - we understand that this is not just attraction - the two love each other. And what does this mean for two, because in fact the emotional connection is intimate?
What gives an emotional connection in a pair relationship:
- When there is trust in the soul, then trust in the body arises, for women this is of great importance. Not only sexual desire is significantly increased, but also the ability to get an orgasm, including an avalanche one.
- Readiness for great achievements in social realization in men. The beloved woman becomes a muse.
- You are like one whole - you are ready for anything for the sake of your loved one and you know for sure that this is mutual.
- There is no problem with attraction - you remain desirable for each other, able to enjoy and enjoy.
In order to maintain attraction and create an emotional connection in a couple, you need a deep understanding of your partner, his psychological structure, his sexual characteristics.
You can get this understanding at the training System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan. Here's what those who have managed to create a special atmosphere of intimacy in a couple say: