The Secret of the Female Orgasm from Systemic Vector Psychology
Male orgasm is set by nature and remains unchanged, the only necessary condition is attraction. However, attraction alone is not enough for a woman. For her, a sensual feeling is important: I belong to him, and he belongs to me! And if there is even the slightest element of mistrust, the body is clamped, regardless of conscious desire, and orgasm is not achieved.
You fell in love with him at first sight, and (lo and behold!) Your feelings are mutual. Friends, of course, are jealous. And even mom and dad liked him! Everything seems fine, but … not in bed. No, it's not about him, it's about you.
Poses from the Kamasutra, breathing practices, searching for the G-spot do not lead to the peak of pleasure that everyone talks about so much. You are pleased, but no more. This feeling is not worth so much effort, and besides, I'm tired of portraying passion, so the desire appears less and less often.
“Maybe this is frigidity? Is it generally treated? What's wrong with me?"
“Prolonged foreplay and hugs promote relaxation as oxytocin levels rise,” write the experts. Yes, but not the fact that it will lead to orgasm. Masturbation is also not good, it is an infantile way of relieving tension, which is only permissible as a seasoning for the "main course." What is the problem with the female orgasm?
First of all, it is important to understand that sexuality is not reproduction, it is the highest form of mutual pleasure. Only at the beginning of the last century, a woman began to take the first timid steps in this direction (film “Once upon a time there was one woman”). Today the volume of the female psyche is much larger than a hundred years ago. The psyche is evolving, along with it female sexuality is evolving.
Male orgasm is set by nature and remains unchanged, the only necessary condition is attraction. However, attraction alone is not enough for a woman. For her, a sensual feeling is important: I belong to him, and he belongs to me! And if there is even the slightest element of mistrust, the body is clamped, regardless of conscious desire, and orgasm is not achieved.
How do you build trust?
Normally, unconsciously, a woman chooses a man who gives her a sense of security and safety. The next stage in a relationship is the conscious creation of a sensual connection between partners.
The tone and direction in a relationship is always set by a woman. Taking a careful step into frankness, she engages in a heartfelt conversation, gradually expanding the range of acceptability. Each time the conversation becomes more sincere, touching on the most intimate topics. Gradually opening and revealing herself, the woman leads. And the man will definitely follow her.
Trust arises on the basis of such an emotional connection, from mutual spiritual penetration into each other. A special closeness in a pair relationship is important, this is a secret that is not told to anyone. So a woman not only creates a stable happy relationship, but also prepares herself for an orgasm.
The body and psyche are an indivisible whole, without one there is no other, but the psyche is primary, and the body is secondary. That is, if a woman has trusted with her soul, then she will also trust in her body. The stronger the emotional connection develops, the more confidence a woman develops, the clamps go away, the body involuntarily relaxes. And at some point, the ability to feel a vivid experience - sexual satisfaction and orgasm - will arise.
There are no natural taboos in the intimate relationship between a man and a woman. Absolutely any desire and need is subject to implementation by mutual consent for mutual maximum pleasure (if this does not violate the law and does not harm third parties). There is nothing cleaner and more desirable than the relationship between husband and wife!
Today, the woman's right to orgasm is finally recognized, it is a natural necessity. As well as the woman's right to say "no" if she does not want intimacy, and the woman should feel safe while doing so.
But in the modern world there are many more reasons why female sexuality may not be sufficiently disclosed. Devaluation of marriage, consumer sex, pornography, the use of mat in the family and in society, false attitudes, psychotrauma, anchors - and as a result, a woman often does not find sexual desire in herself: either it is too weak, or she is not able to relax - that is, to trust, or it cannot become desired - because it does not want to. Vicious circle…
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan helps to solve these and many other problems in the relationship between men and women. During the training, there is a deep awareness of one's own sexuality and feelings, which make people at any age infinitely happy. After completing the training, you get an involuntary skill and ability to build harmonious relationships not only in a couple, but also in society. Read the reviews of those who have already changed their lives.
