The child has nightmares. What should parents do?
It started again! I have nightmares. What to do? Go to a neurologist and give sedatives? Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology gives parents the tools to help ward off night monsters from a child without medication.
A sob breaks through the silence. The child screams, rushes about on the bed, cries, asks to save him. It started again! I have nightmares. A mother's heart bleeds from helplessness. What to do? Go to a neurologist and give sedatives? Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology gives parents the tools to help ward off night monsters from a child without medication.
Where are the horrors in a child's head
Especially impressionable children - the owners of the visual vector - see nightmares in their dreams, and sometimes they imagine them in reality. Their eyes are many times more receptive than those of other people. They grasp and pass through themselves what the majority simply do not notice.
Visual "antennas" catch thousands of shades of different colors and shapes and enjoy it. The favorite time of day for such children is morning, when the bright rays of the sun flood the street, tickling their sensitive eyes with light and beauty. Darkness plunges children with a visual vector into a state of fear - against it the most keen eyes are powerless.
As night falls, they feel their vulnerability and desperately need a sense of safety and protection from their parents. It is created not by a burning night light, but by a strong emotional connection in the family and the correct development of the child's sensuality. Systemic vector psychology reveals how to provide the visual child with these basic conditions for normal development and restful sleep.
Causes of nightmares
Children with a superstroke visual vector perceive not only external details, they are sensitive to the overflow of moods and feelings of others. They have a huge emotional amplitude, and every signal from the outside causes a hurricane of impressions inside them. Such children often express their emotions in drawings. They willingly tell mom and dad what is in their souls, provided they have a strong emotional connection in the family.
Nightmares mean that the child is overwhelmed with fear. He is not conscious, it is even impossible to tell about him. Horror covers the kid with his head.
To know how to change the situation and get the child out of the scary imaginary world, consider the deep causes of fears in children:
- Breaking the emotional connection
The owner of the visual vector feels good only when he is loved and loved. If he lacks warm feelings from mom and dad, such a child is able to create emotional connections with anything. To love with all my heart the teddy bear given by dad to the hamster and the spider who settled in the corner of the balcony.
But the bear got lost, or the grandmother threw out unnecessary old stuff. The hamster died in children's arms. And all the powerful flow of baby's love turns into an avalanche of pain. Losing a favorite toy, a visual child suffers as much as an adult when a loved one leaves the life.
Don't "kill" teddy bears, don't buy hamsters.
The root fear of visual people is the fear of death. At the sight of a deceased, an unformed child's psyche projects this onto itself. And even if the child does not show visible manifestations of the gripped horror, the strongest irrational impression is deposited in his psyche and bursts out with nightmares, tantrums and other problems.
Black ribbons, dead flowers, a funeral march, a coffin, crying, the pale face of the deceased, the smell of death - this is a deep shock for a small visual person.
Take care of visual children, protect them from being at the funeral, until the psyche is strengthened.
Relatives can introduce stress into a visual child without noticing it. The parents just watched the action movie while the child played alongside. A small impressionable nature absorbed all the horror of what is happening on the screen, even if she did not really understand what was happening there. The tension of the situation is read by the baby and can leave the child in the trap of fear for a long time.
Swearing at home is even more detrimental to children, as it deprives them of a basic sense of safety and security.
Some people like to scare children. Suddenly grabbing, jumping out from around the corner, turning off the light in the bathroom, pretending to be dead and getting a heart-rending squeal of a visual child in response - this is how they relieve their own tension. And the baby grows up in constant stress and does not have the opportunity to get rid of fear in such conditions.
Children should not be scared.
- Mom's stress
Any child has a strong psychological bond with his mother. For the viewer, with his ability to read the emotional state, this connection is even more significant. When mom feels bad, even if she doesn't show it outwardly, the baby feels everything. And unconsciously reacts to mom's stress. He needs his mother's care that protects him from all troubles. When the mother herself is suffering and vulnerable, they both become defenseless.
For a visual baby who is tightly attached to his mother on a sensual level, this can provoke nightmares.
You must help yourself to get out of difficult conditions, the only way you can help the child.
- Attacks in the children's team
The visual child is different from the rest. He does not know how to give change, is not able to hurt someone. And it can become the object of peer aggression. And although logic dictates to write it down in karate, the effect will be the opposite. Such a child will not be able to fight anyway, but the development of the visual vector will slow down, which means there will be even more fears and difficulties with adaptation in the team. Power is not in fists, but in the ability to negotiate. Better help him get rid of fears, and he will become everyone's favorite.
And adults should provide security in the children's team. Without adequate adult control, children always play out a primitive aggressive scenario - they look for and find a victim, unite on this. Feeling threatened deprives children of a sense of security and safety, in such a situation, the normal educational process and development are disrupted.
It is necessary to demand from the staff of the kindergarten and school to ensure unconditional security!
"Go away, babayka!" How parents can act to stop their children's nightmares
- Arrange the child's room on the sunny side.
- Establish censorship on all information that reaches the child: films, pictures, news, conversations - he should not watch anything that scares him.
- Develop the child's sensuality in the direction of compassion: read books for compassion with the whole family, talk with the child about important things.
- Provide a sense of safety and security, become stress-resistant and happy parents who are not able to swear and shout.
Impossible? You can learn exactly how to put these recommendations into action, become happier yourself and forever save your child from nightmares and fears at the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.