Stuttering as a reaction to improper parenting
Until now, there is no universal method of treatment that would suit everyone suffering from stuttering. In addition, many open questions remain. For example, what are the true causes of stuttering? What is the connection between stuttering and mental characteristics of a person? How to effectively get rid of stuttering? …
In the beginning was the word … the
Gospel of John
Of the entire animal world, man is the only creature that has the ability to speak, especially in different languages. Speech, as a means of communication, arose as a result of the rapid development of our psyche. In the process of evolution, man as a species has significantly increased its population and habitat. A person cannot survive alone even now, especially since he could not have done it before. You can only survive together. To interact optimally in society, you need to be able to speak.
I stumble over my tongue in excitement
Stuttering is a defect that is expressed in the form of frequent interruptions, stopping of speech, stretching of sounds that arise due to spasms of the organs of the speech apparatus - the larynx, lips, tongue. According to statistics, about 1% of people stutter in adulthood.
The causes of stuttering are usually attributed to:
- Fright in early childhood;
- Pathological education and conflicts in the family.
History knows the facts of stuttering among famous historical figures. For example, the Roman emperor Claudius, the biblical prophet Moses, scientists Newton and Darwin, British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, King George VI of Great Britain.
For a person with a speech impediment in the form of stuttering, public speaking is an enormous stress. He is afraid of sounding his own voice, especially when amplified with speakers. On the other hand, in solitude or in a circle of close people, in a calm state, people even with a very severe defect practically do not stutter.
Until now, there is no universal method of treatment that would suit everyone suffering from stuttering. In addition, many open questions remain. For example, what are the true causes of stuttering? What is the connection between stuttering and mental characteristics of a person? How to get rid of stuttering effectively?
In this article, we will talk about the stuttering phenomenon from the standpoint of Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology.
Different desires, different people
What is more important for a person: a physical body or a soul? For life, both components are important and necessary. We differ from each other in appearance, but the true differences are hidden from our sight. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan gives us the skill to distinguish people not by their external features, but by their mental desires (vectors).
As the SVP says, there are eight sets of innate desires in total - vectors that determine our psychological and physical characteristics. Each vector has its own sensitive area. So, for example, in the skin vector - this is the skin, in the visual - the eyes, in the oral - the speech apparatus (tongue, lips), etc. Everyone has eyes, but it is the owner of the visual vector, like no one else, who is able to recognize the thinnest play of palette. Everyone has skin, but it is the owners of the skin vector that have it especially delicate and sensitive.
Negative conditions of growing up can lead to various disturbances in vectors, both on a psychological and physical level. So, for example, an emotional and sensual person with a visual vector can be traumatized by severe emotional loss - up to a real loss of vision. Most often this happens due to the death of a beloved cat or dog.
The situation is the same with stuttering. System-vector psychology explains that stuttering can occur under unfavorable developmental conditions in children with anal, visual and oral vectors.
Anal vector: slow but solid
According to the system-vector psychology of people with an anal vector, about 20%. Such people collect and accumulate knowledge and experience to pass it on to future generations. And for this they receive their honor and respect. A person with an anal vector in a developed state strives to realize himself as a highly qualified specialist, for example, a teacher, archaeologist, jeweler. This is facilitated by its innate properties: perseverance, thoroughness, analytical mindset, excellent memory.
Children with an anal vector are driven and very “mother-dependent”. That is, they need a close connection with their mother, which at first helps them adapt to life. It is very important to raise such a child correctly: not to rush him, to give him the opportunity to finish what he has begun, not to interrupt the conversation. In general, it is the anal baby that is popularly called the "golden child". And this is not in vain, because such children are very obedient and agreeable, they always try to please their parents with their exemplary behavior.
When such a child is rushed, he experiences severe stress, falls into a stupor. There are many forms of such rushing: breaking off the beginning of a long and detailed story, accelerating dressing and tying shoelaces, and even pulling off the pot. In this case, children with an anal vector do not develop the skills to do everything thoroughly and efficiently, they experience significant psychological discomfort. With a prolonged negative effect on anal children, their sensitive sensor - the anal sphincter - is the first to suffer and clamp, which leads to constipation. In conditions of overstress, the clamp can occur even higher, including at the level of the larynx, which will cause difficulty in speaking and stuttering.
Visual vector: emotions, emotions, emotions …
Another type of people suffering from stuttering is the owner of the visual vector. Spectators see the world brighter and more colorful than representatives of other vectors. The emotional amplitude in the visual vector is huge, such a person can go from tears to laughter in one minute.
People with visual vector have imaginative intelligence. Thanks to sensitive vision and observation, the visual person is able to notice even the smallest changes in the external environment. Unpleasant life situations cause strong emotional experiences and stress in the visual person.
One of the most common causes of stuttering in the eye is fright in early childhood. It is emotional children with a visual vector that can get very scared, which leads to stuttering. It is as if such a person lacks air when he starts to speak.
With the correct development and direction of emotions outward, that is, to the outside world, a feeling of fear for oneself can turn into love and empathy for others. It is very important for these children to create a strong emotional bond with their mother. This gives the child a sense of security and safety, which is a necessary foundation for the further development of his mental properties.
Oral joker: there is always something to say
According to Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, about 5% of children with an oral vector are born. For a person with an oral vector, speaking is, one might say, the meaning of life. Provided that they listen to him.
People with an oral vector are naturally verbal. They think in speaking. It is impossible not to listen to the speech of a person with a developed oral vector. When the oral speaker speaks, it seems that we are hearing our own thoughts, only voiced by another person.
Through the pronunciation of sounds, a child with an oral vector is one of the first to develop his erogenous zone (lips and tongue). At first, it can be indistinct individual sounds, lisping, whistling, smacking. Over time, speech becomes more complex and understandable.
From early childhood, oral children chatter incessantly. If there are "free ears", the oralist always has something to talk about. At first, the audience is a family circle. To attract and retain a listener, oral children invent incredible stories, not distinguishing between truth and lies - just to listen.
When lies are revealed, punishment follows. And in our country it is customary to punish a lie with a slap on the lips. For a child with an oral vector, this is a blow to his supersensitive sensor, which causes over-stress. A few even gentle blows to the lips of an oral child can lead to a loss of control over the speech apparatus, that is, to speech defects and stuttering.
There is a way out, or everything complicated is simple
When a child is going through stressful situations, his sensitive sensor takes the first blow. In this case, a person can be quite adapted in society, despite the speech impairment.
However, stuttering significantly reduces a person's quality of life. Depending on the degree of trauma for most people, the path of recovery from this defect is very thorny. Thanks to Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, we have a unique opportunity to determine the true causes of stuttering, and most importantly, to effectively cope with this defect.
To get rid of stuttering, you need to become aware of your natural characteristics and desires. In sight - to get rid of fear, in anality - to switch to your own pace of life, in orality - to re-develop the vocal apparatus. Already at the first free online lectures on systemic vector psychology, many listeners notice a significant improvement in their psychological and physical condition. Many problems that prevented us from living normally, including stuttering, go away. It should be noted that SVP is not a specialized technique for the treatment of stuttering. Correction of the tempo of speech is only a "side effect" that arises as a result of awareness of one's mental properties.
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