Have you prayed at night, Desdemona?
You walk into a cafe together, couples are sitting at a table - each cockerel with his chicken. This is not yet a reason to relax. Your man looks around the whole room with an attentive gaze. He meets the eyes of every male, and this look eloquently says: “Well, man, you understand, right? I warned you.
Adult life lessons
- Never, do you hear? Never, under any circumstances, no matter what happens - intentionally or not, do not tell your husband about your infidelities, - my mother suddenly told me very seriously, - even if you and your lover were caught red-handed in bed. Reject as much as you can! Like, she slept, didn't bother anyone, I don't know how he got here.
I looked at her, intrigued. I was 12-13 years old. What is she talking about?
She continued:
- I had a friend in the medical school, beautiful as a fairy tale. Black long thick hair, snow-white skin, huge blue eyes. It was impossible to take your eyes off. Her beauty acted magically on all males, and this is understandable. She married an older man in her early years. A good person, caring, economic, but terribly jealous, she never let go of her anywhere.
She laughed when he expressed some claims to her; in her opinion, there was no reason for this. But one day something happened, she stumbled. Haunted by feelings of guilt and remorse, she confessed to her husband that she was unfaithful. He strangled her on the spot, brutally, and for a long time could not stop, beating her already lifeless body. And then he committed suicide. We buried them with the whole institute. Two corpses. Two coffins. Her coffin was closed. They say that it was impossible to recognize her, there was simply no living place.
I listened to her, frozen in ice horror.
- Never! Do you hear? - drew a line under her story mom. I swallowed the ice lump and nodded in agreement.
Such are they, these jealous
Jealousy is multifaceted. We are sometimes touched by the story of the employee about the scene rolled up at home by her husband. “Oh, how he loves you!”, - we say, - “And why is he jealous? It would be because of what."
Indeed, not because of what. So what if the wife works in a men's team? We women are so pleased. What an incentive for us to put on makeup, powder, stand on heels and carry beauty into the world in the morning.
But not all of us have the happiness of bringing beauty to the world. A jealous husband will surely find a chance to come to the office and get to know everyone personally. Know the enemy by sight and everyone by name. “Why are you wearing this tight-fitting skirt? Who are you going to seduce? That Vasyu-hmyr? I saw how he looked at you with pleasure."
You may not even remember Vasya, he works in another department, or you joke with surprise: “What are you, he is 100 years old! And, in general, he is married. Arguments are useless, because he sees your potential seducer in every man - regardless of age, appearance, position, marital status.
A jealous person may demand that you throw out this short skirt and will control the depth of the neckline of your blouses. Now, if you went to work in slippers, without makeup and in a bag. And even better - in a burqa!
You walk into a cafe together, couples are sitting at a table - each cockerel with his chicken. This is not yet a reason to relax. Your man looks around the whole room with an attentive gaze. He meets the eyes of every male, and this look eloquently says: “Well, man, you understand, right? I warned you.
Party at work? What are you speaking about?! You're even afraid to stutter about it. His inflamed imagination will immediately draw many sticky hands holding you in the dance, and only from this thought his eyes become bloodshot. Did you like dancing before him? Forget!
Bird in a cage
You have already excluded from your life all the factors that could give even the slightest reason for suspicion and you are very careful not to provoke an outbreak of jealousy and subsequent endless nagging and interrogation, even absolutely, in your opinion, unfounded.
The realities of life cannot be avoided - trains are late, and there are traffic jams on the roads, and for some reason you have to explain your five-minute delay from work every time. And even when you are with a friend, your man always finds a reason to call and say hello to her personally. His suspicion both outrages and exhausts you.
Gradually, security cameras are installed in the apartment, and you begin to feel that it is difficult for you to breathe. I got a bird in a cage.
And one day, with the next scene of jealousy, your gaze falls on a huge tightly clenched fist, and your heart momentarily fetters terror. Some terrible premonition rolls up to the throat with nausea, but you calm yourself, because he is caring and attentive, he drags everything into the house and saws something with a jigsaw with his son. And what a passion in bed!
Why do friends have husbands like husbands, and you have a mad Moor?
Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology helps to understand human nature, which explains the psychic through a system of eight vectors. Our behavior, psyche is determined by vectors - sets of innate desires and properties.
The creation of a strong family, a warm family hearth, reliable relationships with your soulmate is the need for people with an anal vector. Reliability, decency, purity, loyalty - this is not a complete list of life values of the bearer of the anal vector. He is the best husband and father, faithful, caring, reliable.
The purity of a woman sexually is one of his requirements for a woman, the mother of his children. Maintaining this cleanliness can take painful forms. The first experience is of exceptional importance for a person with an anal vector, because all events are carefully stored in his wonderful memory.
If the first experience of relationships with women was bad, he does not trust, but constantly checks the woman for loyalty. Bad first experiences can be gained both in the relationship with the mother and in the first couples relationship.
A person with an anal vector is guided by an innate fear of disgrace - if his woman stains herself, the shadow of her shame will also fall on him, and for him reputation is very important.
On the other hand, he is monogamous, faithful by nature. For him, the worst thing that can happen in a relationship is betrayal. He will not forgive this. The betrayal of a beloved woman is something that does not fit into his picture of the world. Upon learning about him, he can enter a state of uncontrolled aggression with the possibility of physical violence, with cruelty up to murder.
How to avoid falling victim to a dangerous scenario?
Is it possible to learn to determine who is in front of you - the kindest sweet stay-at-home or home tyrant, caring father of the family or potential sadist and murderer? Is it possible to see dangerous tendencies at the beginning of a relationship and not allow yourself to be drawn into the game with a risk to life? Only by understanding the unconscious hidden from us can we ensure our safety.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan helps everyone to understand the latent psychic both within ourselves and within other people. Understanding our desires and the desires of a partner, as well as the foundations of the world perception of various vectors, gives us a powerful tool to live and act faultlessly in any situation.
You can get the first idea of such a controversial anal vector at the introductory free online lectures by Yuri Burlan Sign up for classes right now:
