Whoever has what hurts, he talks about that. How to recognize a person by keywords
How to learn to determine what a person really is? What can you expect from him? Can you trust him? Can you count on him? Is it possible to learn to speak the same language with him?
We are always interested in understanding other people, their desires, thoughts, values. After all, when a person's behavior is predictable, it is easier for us to find a common language with him, to negotiate, to achieve our goals. It is easier for us to live in this world.
However, understanding another person can be complicated by the fact that people do not always transmit to the world what they feel inside themselves. This can happen for two reasons. People can deliberately lie or hide something in order to appear better than they really are, in order to present themselves in a more favorable light. And unconsciously, because they do not know themselves and wishful thinking.
How do you learn to determine what a person really is? What can you expect from him? Can you trust him? Can you count on him? Is it possible to learn to speak the same language with him? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan convinces us that this is possible.
Vectors and their keywords
System-vector psychology identifies eight groups of desires and properties in the psychic of humanity, given from birth - eight vectors. The name of each vector is determined by the most sensitive area of the body: skin, anal, muscular, visual, sound, and so on. One person has an average of three to five vectors. The presence of one vector or another determines a person's thoughts, his values, and behavior.
The word is what clothe thoughts in a form perceived by all. And since the way of thinking is determined by the mental vector, then the words of the carrier of a certain vector will be appropriate. Consciously or unconsciously, a person will always articulate meanings and values that are important to him, using in his speech key words and expressions for his vector. Therefore, in order to understand a person, you just need to listen carefully to what he says about himself and about other people, and have knowledge about vectors. Let's see how this works using the example of the most common vectors in the modern city - skin, anal, visual and sound.
Limitations, savings, success
A person with a skin vector is ambitious, agile, fast, flexible, adaptive, striving for novelty and change. It fits well into the current dynamic world, which, according to Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, is now also influenced by the skin values of individualism, material success and high social status. Therefore, the key expressions of the skin vector are now on everyone's lips and are easily recognizable: “Who had time - he ate”, “What will I get from this?”, “These are your problems”, “Your shirt is closer to your body”, “Thank you in your pocket you will not put it "," I owe nothing to anyone "," Mine! " Skin people are concerned about status, even if they claim they are not doing anything about it.
A person with a skin vector speaks with restraint, concise and clear, revealing in his speech his main properties and values. The first word that a skin child usually utters is "Give!" - gives us an idea of the ancient species role of the skin man - to bring food from the hunt for the whole flock. Even then, he was the main earner and supplier. He remains them even now, showing his other properties necessary for this.
Extracted - you need to save, but for this you need to limit, save money. The tendency to limitations in everything shows through in the words: "No!", "You can't!", "I said!", "Business is time - fun is an hour." Add to this the edifying tone and characteristic gesture of wagging your finger. The desire to save speaks for itself through the expressions: "Time is money", "A penny saves the ruble."
Logical thinking makes itself felt in the word "logical", which the leatherman likes to use. He's the best at understanding causation.
Health is another value. It is skin people who are great lovers of a healthy lifestyle. Hence the popular expressions nowadays: “Health is the main thing!”, “The main thing is health, and the rest will follow”, “Take care of your health. It is your private property”,“Movement is life”.
Experience, tradition, memory
Another very common vector is anal, the values of which are more related to the past. This is due to the species role of a person with an anal vector, which is to transfer experience to the next generations. And in order to collect and convey this experience in an accurate and unchanged form, you need such properties as patience, scrupulousness, good memory, attention to detail, the desire to constantly learn and replenish your knowledge. Such people are naturally leisurely and solid, preferring quality to quantity. And they speak accordingly slowly, thoroughly, weighty.
See how these values are reflected in their key phrases: "The quieter you go, the further you will be", "I am an experienced person", "Live with mine", "Time-tested", "Everything new is well forgotten old", "Repetition is the mother of learning”,“I repeat!”,“Live and learn”,“Do you remember?..”Their system of values also includes straightforwardness, responsibility, and a decent reputation. "Walk the straight path through life", "The main thing is that people respect", "A man said - a man did."
A person with an anal vector is a champion of justice, which he understands in his own way - so that everyone has an equal share. He says: "All equally, in fairness!", "And a crust of bread - and that in half!" Such an attitude towards the world often turns into resentment, because how much I gave, so much should be returned to me. And if not, then resentment immediately arises. And now we already hear: "It's a shame …", "Where the world is heading!"
His speech often mentions home, family ("It's good to visit, but it's better at home"), order ("Everything should be in its place", "There should be order!", "Put everything on the shelves"), traditions ("Yes, there were people in our time "," This is how our grandfathers and great-grandfathers lived "), a dislike for change (" You didn't do it, you don't have to change it ").
Beauty, fear, love
A person with a visual vector has the most sensitive vision, which can distinguish up to 400 shades of color. Thanks to this ability, at the dawn of mankind, the skin-visual woman protected the flock from the attack of predators. Seeing a lurking predator among the monochromatic colors of the savanna, she was very frightened, screamed: "Oh!", And the flock saved their lives. Until now, this word is key in the vocabulary of visual people. The skin-visual woman is "oozing".
In the same situation lies the root of the enormous emotional amplitude of people with a visual vector. After all, the fear of death, the fear of dying in the clutches of a predator, became the basis for the development of all other emotions, up to love and compassion. But still, possessing undeveloped feelings, the viewer can live in fear, showing this peculiarity in his speech: "I'm afraid", "Scary!", "Awful !!!", "Horror !!!" “Fear has big eyes” is a proverb that very accurately describes the ability of a spectator, thanks to his rich imagination, to make an elephant out of a fly.
Many keywords of visual people are associated with their sensitive area - the eyes. Watching, watching the world is their greatest pleasure. Everything that is beautiful, light is very significant for them. In their speech, there are often words and expressions: “Beautiful!”, “Light”, “Light”, “Beauty will save the world”, “I see”. The sayings "Out of sight - out of mind", "The main thing is love" allow us to understand the peculiarity of the emotional world of the spectator, the polylover, whose feeling of love is primary, and the object for the realization of this feeling is secondary.
And some catchphrases, the author of which is a spectator, reveal to us the victory of the feeling of love over fear: “I love so that it’s not scary to die!”, “To see Paris and die”, “Love overcomes everything, even death”.
The spectator speaks very emotionally, often even expressively, actively accompanying his speech with gestures. His emotions are always reflected on his face.
I, meaning, silence
A person with a sound vector is not of this world. He is not much interested in material reality, he is more immersed in his own states and thoughts. Consciously or unconsciously, he seeks the meaning of life, asking questions: “Who am I? Why all this? Why am I here? By the way, this is one of the ways to determine what is in front of you - a sound engineer, because people with other vectors not only do not speak these questions, but do not even look for answers to them.
That is why the key words of a person with a sound vector are often associated with meaning, cognition, denial of the material world: “What is the meaning?”, “And the meaning?”, “Pointless”, “All vanity is vanishing”, “Life is decay”, “Know yourself!”,“Look inside yourself”. The words "silence", "quiet" reveal his deep need for silence and solitude. Indeed, only in such conditions can he concentrate on his thoughts in order to fulfill his role in this world. Associated with the thought process are words such as "I think …", "Do you think?"
The soundman is an egocentric person, which is why you will most often hear the word "I" in his speech. His facial expressions are inexpressive. He speaks little, quietly, emotionlessly.
What's behind the word
A person who has systemic thinking, formed during the training in Systemic Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan, in contrast to people who do not own it, can distinguish the most subtle nuances of meanings behind words. Often behind the same words, different states and motives are hidden.
For example, when they say about a person that he is greedy, they can mean both super-economy in the skin vector and frugality in the anal one. Only these are completely different states. Real greed is inherent precisely in the owners of an undeveloped or stressed skin vector, which manifests its desire to save only for itself. Greed is an exaggerated desire to possess something.
And an anal person just loves the usual things and does not like to change anything in his life, so he has no reason to waste money. His frugality is the desire to keep what he has.
When analyzing keyword words, a person with systems thinking will also be able to feel the context in which they are used. For example, the word "gorgeous" … If it is used in the sense of "beautiful", "good looking", then it is said by a person with a visual vector. If the narrator is trying to emphasize status, material advantage with the word “chic”, then this is a manifestation of the skin vector.
Diagnostics of conditions
Using keywords, you can determine not only the vector, but also the level of its development, implementation and even the degree of satisfaction with life, the presence of frustrations. The clearest example is when a person with a visual vector constantly uses the word "I'm afraid": "I'm afraid I won't succeed", "I'm afraid I won't be in time." A person may not be aware of the degree of influence on himself of his fears, but the unconscious with might and main screams about this in his ordinary speech.
Or a person with a sound vector can almost directly declare their deep sound deficiencies, a severed connection with people, when the word “I hate” appears in his speech: “All idiots! I hate! "," Leave me alone! " He may not say it, but his whole appearance speaks of his own exclusivity and hatred of humanity.
A person with an anal vector in speech should pedal his masculinity in every possible way: “I'm a man, not a woman!”, “The main thing is to be a man.” These are the first signs of frustration when he is unconsciously worried about his masculinity. Often he uses words associated with his sensitive area in different forms. Frequent use of some of them, for example, "z …", may indicate not so much the cultural level of a person, but rather his propensity for cruelty and sadism. However, when his speech is full of toilet vocabulary, it is a wake-up call about his sexual frustration and pedophilia.
See right through a person
You do not need to be clairvoyant in order to deeply understand a person, to know what he is thinking and what are the motives of his behavior. It is enough to master systemic thinking, to learn about the basic values and ways of thinking of representatives of different vectors. Thus, you will acquire irreplaceable skills in building relationships with any person. This is evidenced by the numerous reviews of those who completed the training.
“Today I know exactly what language to speak with every person, familiar and unfamiliar, so that he understands me, and I can avoid conflict situations. I became more confident in myself and not for a short moment. There was a constant feeling of my own strengths and capabilities.”Olga Ch. I understood with whom I needed to be gentle and patient, with whom clearly and to the point, and who would not be affected by any pleas or requests - she would run away anyway, unfasten himself from the dropper, and in one linen she would jump out the window.”Eva B. Read full text of the result “The feeling that I catch is like a search for the lack of other people, but if earlier it seemed important to me to understand them, or something,correlate with a vector affiliation, now I kind of know myself, it became clear to me how to focus on another, it WORKS))) I look at another person, by keywords, by appearance, I guess, by behavior, movements, but I understand, no, I feel myself, on these differences there is unity, it's so simple! It is so simple! Olga B. Read the full text of the result
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