Phobia: one hundred names of one fear
To better understand the nature of fears, let's define what a person is afraid of. And most importantly - what kind of person. This is not the case when the "average temperature in the hospital" is suitable …
Before they even called it a word, people knew what a phobia was. This is an uncontrollable fear, horror of something completely not terrible, if you soberly assess the situation. But it is precisely with the sobriety of thinking at such moments that the problem is.
For example, Alfred Hitchcock, known not only to horror fans, was afraid of oval objects all his life. They say he was afraid of eggs. He did not eat a single egg and could not even look in their direction. Even the name was invented - ovophobia. Could it be this fear that gave Hitchcock new ideas for thrillers?
We will definitely talk about this a little further. But first, let's see if all strong fears become phobias and whether everyone can be a hostage to this scourge. And we will definitely find out what are the ways to get rid of phobias.
1. When logic is powerless
More than a hundred of them have already been described, and new species and subspecies are constantly emerging. It seems that everyone understands what phobias are, the definition of their different types is unambiguous, there is a division into groups by direction. Nevertheless, what negative states are not called phobias! For example, the often discussed today Russophobia or homophobia is not a panic horror, nevertheless, they deserve to be counted among the "phobias".
So, the well-known facts about phobias, which we take into account first.
- This repetitive state is the experience of uncontrollable fear or excessive anxiety in similar situations. If you are afraid of dogs, you will be afraid both on the street and in the house of friends, even if you have heard about the good nature of their pet. Regardless of size and breed.
- There is always a specific source of fear that can be easily identified - each phobia has a name.
- Failure to avoid a traumatic situation or contact with a phobic object can lead to panic attacks, fainting, and other similar reactions. And the screeching of women at the sight of mice has long been a classic example.
The problem is that often a single thought or mention of the source of fear is enough to create terror. The very possibility of confronting fear face to face triggers a panic attack. For example, if you are afraid of snakes, not only is the thought of going into the forest where snakes are found scaring you, but even drawings of snakes cause discomfort.
- A phobia cannot be defeated by logic, it is impossible to force oneself to stop being afraid, since irrationality is the main feature of the manifestation of phobias. A person may even be ashamed of his reaction, but at the moment of fear, the brain turns off, giving all control to the unconscious.
Consciousness is powerless before phobias in the event that there is no way to trace the real logical chain of fear formation. Even if you remember exactly at what age and under what circumstances you were first frightened of an open space, a cockroach or something else, consciously linking events with today's experiences, it will be very difficult to get out of this vicious circle. Otherwise, people in different parts of the world would not be tormented by all kinds of phobias.
Conventional logic is not enough - it is necessary to understand the causes and mechanism of fears. What is inside your unconscious triggers a process that creates a phobia.
For example, Tatiana was haunted by fear from childhood, the reasons for which were realized only at the online training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan:
2. When fear has big eyes
To better understand the nature of fears, let's define what a person is afraid of. And most importantly - what kind of person. This is not the case when the "average temperature in the hospital" is suitable.
In most cases, a phobia is a manifestation of the fear of death arising in the visual vector. The mechanism of the formation of fears and phobias is discussed in detail at the online training by Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology". It is important for us now to understand that this is the basic fear - the first emotion that has arisen from the owners of the visual vector since ancient times.
The worst thing for any person is to lose control over what determines his role in society and ensures his individual survival. The manifestations of fears are not always obvious, but understanding the nature of desires in each vector explains their reasons. For a better idea, I will give a few examples:
- the fears of the owner of the skin vector are associated with the skin (fear of getting infected through the skin) and with the possibility of losing control over resources (loss of income, material values, status);
- the fears of the owners of the anal vector are also associated with physiological characteristics and life values: fear of disgrace, being not the best, fear for family members, fear of one's own sexuality, as well as fears associated with a possible repetition of negative experiences;
the main fear of the owner of the sound vector is to go crazy, to lose control over the ability to think, to lose touch with reality.
Nature endows the owners of the visual vector with the highest sensitivity to the perception of shades of color and light. And the fear of death, darkness, in its opposite to the bright colors of life, becomes the starting point for an incredible range of emotions available to the viewer - from mortal horror in the face of the threat of loss of life to sublime love, "before which death has no power."
In combination with other vectors, the visual vector can enhance the perception of fear, additionally color it emotionally, leading to a phobia with all accompanying manifestations.
In the visual vector, the fear of the dark, the fear of death are associated with the inability to notice danger in time. After all, procrastination once meant being eaten by a predator. Today, there is practically no such danger, and the predators are smaller, but the ancient horror still rules the life of some of us.
For a long time, the "predator from the past" influenced Anna's life:
3. When outside is a strange world
Without a visual vector, fears are not so pronounced as to be called phobias. Or these phobias are not associated with the fear of death, but with a sharply negative attitude towards something, as some owners of the anal vector have - homophobia.
The reasons and features of the manifestation of various phobias are considered at the training of Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology" here, but in each case the main reason is the same - a lack of understanding of the true nature of one's own desires and properties of the psyche. And also - a superstitious idea of the world, the reason for which is also a misunderstanding of the principles of human interaction with the outside world and others like them.
But most importantly, as noted above, most of the processes that arouse fear occur in the subconscious. Therefore, even people with developed intelligence and critical thinking can become hostages of phobias.
As a result, when fear or phobia appears, what does this mean - we do not think and just try to avoid unpleasant situations. Few people turn to specialists about their fears, not hoping that in this case they can help. Is that when a phobia really makes existence impossible.
A striking example of such an extreme degree for me was a story I recently heard. A young man, a relative of my neighbor, had a car accident in his youth. His parents died, and his life was filled with such fear that he has been living in the clinic for more than 30 years. He is treated, discharged … but uncontrollable panic invariably returns him to treatment after a few days. And only in the clinic does he feel protected.
In most cases, phobias do not cause as many problems. But at its core, having a phobia means that we separate ourselves from the external aggressive world. There, outside, full of dangers - nasty personalities, wild animals, biting insects and dangerous objects. Something we simply do not like, we have learned to use something for ourselves, but something is fraught with an unpredictable threat.
Olga, a student of the online training "System Vector Psychology", describes her long-term relationship with the world as follows:
Ways to overcome phobias
What else needs to be understood for a complete picture? Obsessive fears, phobias - different manifestations, have a different clinical picture. Panic attacks are also considered separately. In this case, manifestations of a phobia can be accompanied by panic attacks or not.
But ultimately we return to the fact that the vast majority of known phobias and fears have one root - the fear of death. It is also obvious that such phobias are defined by their manifestation - the effect, but few name the true cause.
It is understandable when aerophobia (fear of aircraft) is due to information about the crash. Or the cause of kinophobia (fear of dogs) was a dog attack. But among the phobias there is a fear of the number 666 - hexacosioihexecontahexaphobia. The number itself isn't scary, is it? The mystical horror evokes an idea of the meaning of this number or how to use it. The possible consequences of contact with the forces behind the terrible number are terrifying.
The number of such phobias is no less than the fears associated with real, although statistically unlikely, threats. Here, for example, what Elena told about her phobia associated with omens:
From the outside, such phobias can seem ridiculous. But if you know any phobia behind you, you understand how difficult it is in practice not to succumb to sticky horror, how difficult it is to even out your breathing and calm your crazy heart rate. And what if the result of your work depends on your reaction here and now? If there is a child next to you and you are fully aware that you should not frighten him, but you cannot do anything with yourself? If you understand that there is no reason for fear, but fear is it. Definitely not laughing.
What to do if a phobia from time to time as an uninvited guest breaks into your life? Usually advice is offered, but it does not help to understand and change the root cause.
"Don't focus on negative emotions." When everything shakes and is ready to lose consciousness, it is difficult not to focus on this. But you should not additionally sway your emotions, you should not scare yourself.
- "Workout". You need to understand very well what kind of sport will help and suit you, and not add problems. If you don't have enough activity, it's best to choose a hobby that fulfills your emotional needs as well. Dances of all kinds, theater studio or team sports.
- "Recognize the existence of a phobia." It's hard to disagree with this advice, but it's important not to stop there.
- "Accept yourself as you are in reality." Self-acceptance is not about leaving things as they are. This should be the starting point for improving your life. And first, figure out - WHAT you are in reality. You can understand why you are scared of what others do not pay attention to at the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
When you understand yourself and the nature of your fear, even those phobias that are intensified by real-life events go away easily, as happened with Leila:
What is phobia afraid of: personal experience
In theory, everything is clear, but when it comes to the practice of dealing with phobias, the result is not always predictable. Therefore, it seemed to me earlier that these numerous phobias in psychology were specially invented in order to take more money for treatment. But I still went to consult with psychologists with some phobias, although she considered them a completely natural fear. After all, I thought, all people are afraid of something. Alas, at the time, the results were too short-lived to matter.
More than anything else, I was afraid of spiders, monsters living in the dark, gunshots in the back and public speaking. More mirrors - as conductors of otherworldly energy. Now even remembering this is strange. The deepest fears, which relate to phobias, were associated with loved ones, interfered with relationships, exhausted everyone.
With spiders, the issue was resolved most quickly at the online training "System-vector psychology", and the rest of the fears gradually disappeared as if by themselves. After all, what you understand and can see well is no longer scary. Over time, I discovered that my phobias are no longer phobias, except that sometimes a slight and quite natural anxiety in difficult situations.
But this is not the only point.
Once I remember Kafka's expression: “He who has cognized the fullness of life does not know the fear of death. The fear of death is only the result of an unfulfilled life. " Ultimately, this became the answer, the meaning of which I understood only at the training of Yuri Burlan. I saw how it is to fulfill YOUR life, realize YOUR desires and what the fullness of life really is. What is a phobia compared to the delight of love of life ?!
Like all villains, fears are most afraid of the light. You can fight the fear of the dark by turning on the lamp, or you can shine the light of knowledge on your own unconscious and conquer all fears at once.
Huge sensory and emotional potential is able to illuminate the life of everyone who surrounds a person with a visual vector. But this is very difficult when the outside world seems alien and threatening. Therefore, it is so important to understand your own properties of the psyche, as well as learn to distinguish the properties of others - to see the complete picture of the world in all shades of manifestation.
What else does this understanding give?
We, the owners of the visual vector, are ready to create emotional connections with everyone who is understandable and pleasant. Our raison d'être is love. We love those who love us … only sometimes we forget that we are loved by those we love. Yes, creepy spiders can be loved too. Even monsters banging their fangs under the bed for fear of people. In return, they will not love us, but they will definitely stop frightening us. And most importantly, when there is love in the heart, such an inner filling is felt that there is no place for fears.
Of course, love does not replace safety concerns. And here again comes to the aid of understanding the properties of others - the ability to instantly distinguish from whom and from what it is better to stay away.
How to get rid of a phobia: expert comments
Phobias in one way or another affect all areas of our life. And this problem is not only psychological, therefore, it is better to fight phobias in a complex manner. This is what experts say, who, by the nature of their work, have to deal with phobias and their consequences.
“In the course of identifying causal relationships by the client, he independently manages to track and record the moments of occurrence of phobias and the dynamics of development in the future.
In modern psychology, there are no analogues in obtaining significant and sustainable results of getting rid of various phobias, except for the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan. The psychoanalytic effect of the classes has a healing effect on the feelings and emotions of the listeners …"
Phobia is your potential
Fear was once a natural regulator for survival. But if fear turns from a helper into a limiter, it's time to think - the potential is clearly going to the wrong place.
The sensual potential that is given to the owners of the visual vector does not fit within the framework of “everyday” pleasures. The level of inner intensity of feelings requires application on a wider scale than just for one's own joy. And not finding fulfillment, he goes into fears, phobias, breaks through with panic attacks. Sometimes, to be honest, we deliberately sway in fears - we are looking for thrills when it seems that the taste of life is not saturated enough.
One more question remains. Many famous people can be observed experiencing phobias. Are they also not realizing their potential? Are they also not enough of those emotions that they receive in life?
Partly. After all, attracting attention to yourself and giving joy to others are opposite intentions. The first saturates with bright emotions, but does not entail satisfaction. The second gives real pleasure and inspiration for life.
For example, some famous people are looking for a way out in secular scandals, eccentric antics and endlessly afraid of oblivion. Others, like Alfred Hitchcock, who was mentioned at the beginning, bring their fears out, turning the entire creative process into personal psychoanalysis … and an additional source of future phobias for other owners of the visual vector. And some find themselves in charity, become volunteers, expressing unspent emotions with love and compassion. Such people, as a rule, feel their life more complete.
I do not urge anyone to volunteer if there is no such desire. Indeed, to receive satisfaction from any business, both the internal state must be appropriate and the intention.
In addition, we must not forget about the realization of desires that arise in other vectors. At the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan, you will easily understand what will give you a feeling of satisfaction from life.