How to find a calling: I want something, I don't know what
What DO YOU REALLY like to do? It is for you. Not your parents, who see you as sales geniuses. Or a husband who admires your yoga practice. Or someone else who can influence you …
We do not find ourselves right away: we try and make mistakes, make mistakes and try again. Someone is lucky - and he quickly takes his niche and feels confident. Someone suffers for years, suffering from false ideas about success, from confusing social expectations, from a lack of understanding of their real desires - and pokes like a blind kitten in search of what they love.
What is left to do for those who fail? Accept? But then stress and a feeling of dissatisfaction are inevitable. Continue blindly seeking a vocation? Each subsequent "bump" will be more painful than the previous one. Again stress, and again dissatisfaction. There seems to be no way out, but … not everything is so hopeless. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, revealing the essence of innate properties and abilities, makes it possible to look at the problem as a whole, in a complex, and painlessly find an individual solution to the problem.
Consider this using the example of a person with a set of three or four vectors. The set of its vectors consists of cutaneous, anal, visual, and possibly sound vectors. There are a lot of such people in big cities, and there are a lot of them at trainings on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan. The potential of such a person is very powerful, but if there is no inner agreement and understanding, he will rush from case to case, making mistakes.
Build on social expectations
Today there is a great demand for sales managers. Successful salespeople make good money, and numerous courses promise that you can teach anyone to sell. So why not follow social expectations and become a manager?
You can study the theory, find a job and dream of making your million - in order to eventually understand that you had to choose something else, and that the manager of you is so-so. You do not have the speed and assertiveness that a good seller needs, your bosses call you passive and lack of initiative, tries to stimulate your desire to sell, teaches you to negotiate correctly.
In theory, everything is clear to you, but it is difficult to apply in practice. You need to force yourself all the time to make another call to the client, you are unwittingly looking for ways to avoid the negotiation stage, because you understand that you cannot maintain favorable conditions for your company, and you will immediately surrender under the pressure of a counterpart. You have two roads before you: to work hard and remain a middle-class salesman all your life (“don't quit your job!”) - or give up and look for happiness elsewhere.
From a systemic point of view, everything is clear: a person with a skin vector naturally gravitates towards the field of sales. However, to really become a good manager, gravitation alone is not enough here - more developed qualities of the skin vector are needed. As, however, and anal, which in our case begins to manifest itself completely out of place: where you need to work quickly, you start to hesitate and "stop", where you need to sell at any price, your conscience turns on, and so on. So it turns out that social expectations are like pointing a finger at the sky: you will work, but somehow, without pleasure and growth.
Choose with your heart
Career experts recommend that you only pay attention to what you are passionate about. And then, they promise, everything will be as Confucius said: "Choose a job you like, and you will not have to work a single day in your life."
So, one day you may decide that you will make a great … yoga instructor. Why not? Yoga pacifies, relieves of unpleasant physical conditions inherited from the sedentary lifestyle that you led, trying to become a sales guru. All yoga classes are held in a quiet pleasant environment, instructors travel to seminars in the most beautiful places in the world. Story! You just need to get a little more skillful in practice - but these are trifles …
When the myth is dispelled, it becomes clear that the decision to become a yoga instructor is wrong. After the very first attempts, you understand: you don't want to teach someone at all, people are annoying, and yoga is pleasant when it's a hobby, not a job.
System-vector psychology here explains where these thoughts, desires come from, and why nothing comes of it: yoga is most often interested in people with skin and sound vectors - as not just exercise, but a whole religious and philosophical system that should satisfy a spiritual search sound engineer. Yoga beckons with the opportunity to concentrate on your inner sensations, from which, it seems, you can "jump" to another level of consciousness. However, it is extremely little for a modern sound engineer to fill this, since all the same yoga leads to worries about the physical, bodily. And if you don't have a sound vector at all, yoga will turn out to be just an interesting entertainment (something unusual is in vogue today!), But still not satisfying your true needs. As a result, there was no joy and no joy. And you have to go further through trial and error in order to finally find yourself.
Act with awareness
Someone continues to stubbornly dive into new areas, and someone, having strayed blindly, returns to their original positions and changes their attitude to the profession and ceases to demand the impossible from themselves. Both are right - if the result is harmony with oneself and satisfaction from what you are doing. But such an outcome may not be achieved. Or spend too much time and effort to finally get where you wanted to. And only one thing can help here: a clear understanding of what you are capable of, in what you, in principle, can achieve success.
Such awareness of oneself can be achieved without many years of trial and error - it is given in a short time by the thoughtful completion of the training in system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan. This new scientific direction of applied psychology allows you to thoroughly understand what YOU REALLY like to do. It is for you. Not your parents, who see you as sales geniuses. Or a husband who admires your yoga practice. Or someone else who can influence you.
Once you understand what exactly is preventing you from successfully selling, you can safely switch to another activity without any sense of guilt. After all, you will understand that it is pointless to blame yourself for the fact that due to some circumstances your skin vector has not been developed to a greater extent. In the same way, you will understand the reason for your passion for yoga, as well as why it cannot become your profession: you are concerned not so much with the physical as with the spiritual, which has and gives meaning. Comparing the information received at the trainings with your previous experience, discarding unnecessary and superficial, you will clearly see which tasks you can handle, and where you are pulling by mistake; what is worth looking at, and where you will definitely waste time.
Above, of course, are examples of other people's wanderings in the dark, somewhere simplified and exaggerated. However, with the help of Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology, the key can be found for any problem of self-determination.
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