How to inspire a man
There is a woman behind every great man. If he falls short of the bar, then the clever and beautiful woman just needs to figure out how to inspire a man. Let us analyze with examples why it is impossible to inspire a man and what needs to be fundamentally changed in the approach to him …
I want to feel like a princess for which he is ready for anything. But in fact - until you say twenty times, it will not move. Why is that? Where did the desire to make your beloved happy go? Cranes, shelves, nails, to hell with them, we live in the 21st century! Just let him strive for something worthwhile, set and achieve goals, earn a decent life, delight and make him proud. And everything suits him on a shabby chair.
There is a woman behind every great man. If he falls short of the bar, then the clever and beautiful woman just needs to figure out how to inspire a man. The secret ingredient to inspiration is to be desired by him. In this article, we will not talk about seductive lace, but about the internal components of a woman's ability to inspire.
First, we will pass popular advice to women through the filter of common sense, and then we will give an effective guide to action.
Myths about how a woman inspires a man
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Praise him, praise him!
This method helps a little in relationships only with a certain type of men, there are only 20% of them. Such people are very sensitive to the opinions of others. There is no approval from loved ones and the team - there is no movement on its part. But even if there is such a trait in him, a woman with thoughtless praise will not be able to help him get rid of the brake mechanism that had developed in childhood and was closely associated with his mother.
For all other men, blind praise will have no effect. If you want to get things done, a precise psychoanalytic approach will help.
Feed him, feed him!
The path to a man's heart through his stomach leads to a sad relationship. We got it all mixed up, attributing female desires to men. In fact, it is possible to endear her to yourself, generously feeding. This is how we evolved. The man carried the prey from the hunt, fed the chosen one and only then had the hope for the development of relations.
A delicious dinner is a sign of care and attention to him, but not a magic pill for a man's inspiration. There is something different than only a woman can fill a relationship and motivate a loved one for big things. This is not the level of dumplings, but of feelings.
Show him your weakness
Hints, antics, tricks, and manipulations do not inspire anyone. A man may not be aware, but he feels exactly where he is really needed and where he is not. It is impossible to imitate an unconscious lack, namely, a man seeks to fill it. The only way to get rid of the mismatch between request and offer is to figure out what exactly you want deep down. Without the husks of instagram and mom's ideas about your happiness.
What is the real inspiration of a man?
"She lifts you up with some precise hits to the soul, and you come to life."
Valentin Gaft
Everyone says - you have to believe in him. But if day after day you don't get what you want from your beloved, you no longer believe in the effectiveness of faith.
By themselves, other means of influence are included in a woman:
- someone urges
- someone is offended
- someone takes emotional blackmail,
- someone is playing in silence,
- someone is looking for something on the side that the husband does not give.
The result is the same - both are exhausted, not satisfied and full of claims to each other. How to motivate your man without remaking him or torturing yourself?
The main skills of the inspirer:
- Know exactly what a man is naturally good at.
- To be desired by the body and inner state.
- Learn to trust and accept his gifts: from dizzying orgasms to amazing achievements.
Yuri Burlan's training "System Vector Psychology" provides a woman with these basic skills for happiness in a couple. Let us analyze with examples why it is not possible to inspire a man and what needs to be fundamentally changed in the approach to him.
Why can't you inspire?
That would give a ticket to a distant and beautiful Australia!
She loves to travel to exotic countries. And he prefers to relax every summer in a simple wooden house in the country. Organizational fuss, hotels, constantly changing pictures in front of his eyes, a new language, unusual food, strangers - for him there is not a drop of delight, sheer stress. Choosing predictability and constancy himself, he will invite her out of town to her parents.
Does he want to piss her off? He is pleased to feel a solid foundation, a connection with the past, the warmth of family gatherings in a place familiar from childhood. And he seeks to bring his beloved to his paradise.
Even if we agree to take turns to spend a vacation in the country, then under a palm tree, inside both will grow annoyance and irritation if the natural difference in desires is not clear.
To realize that a loved one does not do it out of spite, but in fact feels this way with his soul and wants the best is the first step towards mutual understanding. If a woman requires a man to go against his nature, he will either be unhappy with her, or be happy with the other.
Apartment in the center, diamonds and status
A successful woman wants her man to match her level of needs. Even if she can achieve everything herself, there is a glimmer of hope that he will finally understand that his woman is worthy of diamonds, and not cheap jewelry; expensive cosmetics, not a mass market; a spacious apartment in a good area and much more. Tired of denying myself because I have to support the whole family myself. How to inspire a man for success and a high-paying job?
Two are a constant dialogue, where the basic condition is to hear the other. It is difficult when everything inside is bubbling because he only says that he will try, but in reality nothing changes. Claims completely drown out the other side. The woman loses the ability to feel what is happening to the man during this period, what is the reason for his stupor.
A systematic understanding of the other person allows us to learn from nature, which always knows how to find balance for a common goal. In the nerve cells, there is a process designated by Ivan Petrovich Pavlov as protective inhibition. If a cell is overexcited, such an overload can lead to its death. In this situation, her neighbors take on some of the stress. This saves the cell from death.
And people often do the opposite. The husband came home from work, tired, twitched, and at home instead of calmness and soft slippers an angry wife meets. We ourselves are strained to the limit and have forgotten how to calm down a loved one with a warm word and a simple deed. Make a joint watch a gift, not a punishment.
Women who have learned to understand their husbands also receive financial well-being as a bonus. Before Olesya underwent training, her husband could not cope with the task of providing for the family. And now he found himself in his business. The higher the level of understanding in the couple, the higher the family income.
I wish I could be silent for at least ten minutes!
He loves to talk, and she loves to think in silence. If you shut it up all the time at home or just pretend to listen, both will suffer. When a man has nowhere to give his talent, he loses the energy to act. Feels that what he knows and loves, nobody needs.
For a natural talker, this is not a bad habit, not a bad upbringing - this is a property of the psyche that cannot be altered. But you can reconsider the approach to interaction.
When a woman understands exactly what the strength of a loved one is, it is easy to find together a scope for applying his best properties. And so he comes home happy, having held a round table for a large audience. With his loud, convincing voice, he did not leave anyone in the hall indifferent to the problem under discussion. He raised a wave of discussion, he was on the crest. With burning eyes, he rushes home to share his delight with his beloved!
Bringing a woman the fruit of his labor is a great pleasure for a man. And if you thought about it together, and he did it not in spite of you, but thanks to - the charge of his energy increases significantly. When the ideological inspirer is waiting with joy for her hero, he is ready to endlessly reach new heights for her.
"Well, well!", Or an attempt to motivate with irony
If he is inactive or does not do what the woman wants, she begins to make fun of her man in order to somehow relieve internal tension. “Well, well, I know how you will arrange everything! How many times have passed!"
Such an echo of the "saw" is the most dangerous, since it not only demotivates a man, but makes him feel like a social zero. This is greetings from our ancestors, who are still not far from chimpanzees. By public ridicule, they turned the offending male into an outcast. They didn’t take this kind of thing to hunt anymore, and not a single female went into the cave with this.
When his dearest person laughs at a man, especially in public, he feels the full weight of that ancient humiliating situation. He himself may not even notice what the matter is. And his ability to create is shackled by the sharp jokes of his beloved woman.
120 Trillion Favorite Cells
"Every day I love this Universe, which is called Natasha, more and more."
Vladimir Presnyakov
By nature, a man goes wherever a woman leads him. The only condition for him not to stop on the way behind her is her desire. And here physics is always intertwined with the soul. Only on bodily traction, the steam does not last long. But emotional closeness and careful understanding of each other have no statute of limitations.
When for a long time a woman is not satisfied with a relationship, is unhappy with life, annoyed with a loved one, she has nothing to inspire and inspire him with. The training "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan allows you to understand your desires, regain your good condition, reveal the resources of your beloved man and with every cell feel in your difference the powerful force of mutual inspiration.
