Musty closets of psychology - Development of thinking and speech of children in a new light
How can parents understand what to do if the baby does not speak as many words as it should be according to the age norm: wait or take urgent measures, including taking advantage of advances in the field of pharmaceuticals?
We visited a car service with our two-year-old son. Literally twenty minutes he watched as winter tires were changed to summer ones. After that, the little one spooled the wheels on all his cars. Young tire changer.
In addition, he began to spit on the floor with relish. I learned from the locksmith there. Needless to say, we had a productive trip: they prepared the car for the new season, and the son acquired new skills.
OPEN QUESTIONS
Here's how to understand children's thinking, how to develop it? I sometimes show my son how to do something, wait for him to repeat - but no, he doesn't want to, it doesn't work. And then I saw only once - and demonstrates a brilliant result of memorization, reproduction!
With speech, the same thing - I did speech therapy exercises with him, I went to developmental classes according to the Maria Montessori system, I read books - the child utters all sounds, but still speaks his own language. "Babay", "yum-yum", "top-top" … Nobody taught him these words, did not distort the words during conversation. Why the son says so is not clear.
At the same time, the principle prevails in pedagogical recommendations for the development of a child's speech and thinking: repetition is the mother of learning. If you want your child to speak well, have a rich vocabulary - you need to talk to him often, learn new words, regularly practice in a playful way, sculpt, draw, do finger gymnastics. Do not leave the child without parental attention and affection. Alas, as practice has shown, not a horse feed.
MAYBE A DELAY IN DEVELOPMENT?
Thinking and speech in modern psychology are put on the same shelf. Badly speaks - means badly thinks. No words, no thoughts.
Talking a lot and quickly is also a reason for parents to be wary. Is everything all right with the thought processes? I didn’t listen to the question until the end, but already answered - one of the symptoms of attention deficit.
The concepts of "normal" and "abnormal" are the sword of Damocles in the minds of parents. I would like the child to be healthy, develop fully, so that doctors and psychologists give confirmation: everything is in order, thinking and speech correspond to the age norm.
However, it often happens that the internal opinion of the parents does not correspond to the external assessments of professionals. Of course, everything can be attributed to the fact that for mom and dad, their baby is the best by definition, and their love is blind, so they do not see the obvious - developmental deviations.
But what about the common cases when a child, who is delayed by doctors in the development of speech, understands everything perfectly, realizes, and after a while begins to speak in whole sentences? As the people say, he was silent, silent, and then it burst. Miracle? Indigo baby? Features of individual development?
So how can parents understand what to do if the baby does not speak as many words as it should be according to the age norm: wait or take urgent measures, including taking advantage of advances in pharmaceuticals?
WHAT DO WE KNOW ABOUT CHILDREN'S THINKING?
René Descartes's expression "I think, therefore I am" well shows the importance of thinking for man. This is the most important step in our knowledge. The ability to reflect the real world in the brain, accumulate knowledge about its properties, relationships, draw your own conclusions and inferences.
You can read about the nature of thinking in philosophy, its forms and laws are considered by logic, and psychophysiological mechanisms are studied by physiologists and psychologists.
The child consistently goes through the following stages of thinking development:
- - visual-effective (for example, children see what other people are doing and repeat, for example, put on glasses, like a grandmother),
- - visual-figurative (for example, a child first sees an apple, then his image is formed in him, and then with the word "apple" he understands what is at stake),
- - verbal-logical (for example, children master the ability to find cause-and-effect relationships between objects, highlight signs of objects, draw conclusions).
Moreover, all types of thinking are inherent in every person, just at a certain moment one of the types of thinking becomes at the helm, while others remain in the background. At the same time, the old forms of thinking continue to develop and are filled with new content. For example, at the age of about 4-6 years, children develop visual-figurative thinking, while visual-active thinking does not disappear, it enters a higher stage of development.
The development of speech accompanies the development of thinking. The better the thinking is, the better the speech and vice versa.
RECIPES FOR ALL
For the development of children's thinking and speech, parents are advised:
- go to developmental classes;
- create a favorable atmosphere for the child to learn about the world around him;
- adequately limit children's curiosity, prohibit only what is unsafe for life and health;
- attend kindergarten;
- engage in creativity;
- read books to the kid;
- to encourage independent thinking;
- to provide oneself to make a choice in life situations;
- learn to make decisions, analyze the available information.
Responsible parents from birth (some also during the prenatal period) begin to engage in the development of the baby. Most of them understand how important it is not to waste time, a sensitive period in a child's development, and try their best. They master new methods of early development.
And by the development of thinking, some understand that it is necessary to teach the child to think faster. Others are creative, non-standard. Still others want to develop his logic.
Why are they doing this? As a rule, adults strive to develop the child's speech and thinking so that in the future he becomes successful in business, in communication, at home, or to realize the cherished dream of his parents. They send him to classes in rhetoric, foreign languages, teach oratory and so on. Childhood is a start into adulthood, and the better a child is prepared, the higher he will fly. Or it will fall more painfully.
Steven Harisson, the author of the book "Happy Child", correctly noted: “We are so carried away by teaching our children that we have forgotten that the very essence of a child's education is to create his happy life. to my children and myself."
THIS IS IT, HAPPINESS
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan contributes to our awareness of how we bring up and develop our children. "Normal" development and "abnormal" in the context of understanding the innate abilities of children take on a new meaning. A single norm? It's like averaging the development of the thinking of a dolphin and a cuckoo, and then give general recommendations based on this norm for everyone. Undoubtedly, there is something in common between a bird and a mammal, but the effectiveness of general advice will be very low, unlike individual advice.
A systematic approach allows one to distinguish the properties assigned to a child from birth and avoid mistakes in upbringing. It is impossible to develop something that was not originally given to the baby. If at home he does not feel maternal love and affection, it will be difficult for him to develop. So why knock on closed doors, wasting your time, nerves and making your loved one miserable?
HOW COULD BE
- Congratulations on the newborn! You have a boy born with an anal vector. His thinking is viscous, rigid. He finds it difficult to adapt to everything new. Meanwhile, it has a unique memory, the ability to process a large amount of information. It is important not to rush him, to teach him to act according to a model, according to a template, to praise him for a successful action, and he will cope with tasks brilliantly. He is meticulous, scrupulous, brings everything to the end. We can say about him: strong in hindsight.
Demanding creativity, quick thinking from him is like demanding a fish to fly across the sky. Nothing good will come of it. The kid will only feel his inferiority, harbor a grudge against his parents for not accepting him for who he is.
A sudden change in the situation can unsettle such a child. It is from here that all the stories that the baby was developing remarkably come from, he already spoke perfectly, and how, with the change of the new kindergarten, he stopped talking, became anxious, or the excellent student failed the exam.
Before making a diagnosis of mental retardation, it is a good idea to find out what preceded such a change. An anal child is shown reading books, constructors, wooden blocks, houses, puzzles, etc. for the development of speech and thinking. games where you have to sit and think, be collected and patient. The incentive for any activity of the child with the anal vector is praise. A kind word is capable of leading an anal person if it is fair, a well-deserved reward for the cause.
I'M ALL RUN, RUN
- Look, you have a baby with a skin vector. With flexible thinking, who knows how not only to adapt to changing conditions, but also to benefit. He thinks quickly, makes decisions quickly, he does not need to put information on the shelves, weigh the pros and cons for a long time, like an anal child. His nature is not directed to the depth of thought, he jumps on top, but he manages to do a lot of things at once.
If parents try to instill perseverance in him, force him to finish what he has begun, repeat the same thing, forbid trying himself in different guises, then he will lose interest in knowing the world. He catches everything on the fly, quickly learns to speak. Everything new brings him pleasure. His speech is fluent, broken. For him, time is money, so there is nothing to mess with. Saves words, goes straight to the point.
It is best to develop the thinking and speech of skin children in outdoor games, also where there is competition and competition. They love to do counting, math. Material values are their priority. If you want to teach the leatherworker something - list what benefit he will get from it, what he will get in the end.
Skinners are leaders by nature, it is important for them to be the first in everything. It is possible to encourage them for a correctly completed task and stimulate them to new achievements with material benefits. The fact that not only will fill the pocket, but will also bring tangible benefits to the baby. For example, going to the circus or an extra hour before bed.
Brilliant engineers, architects, lawyers grow from leather workers. Who, if not them, is capable of responding with lightning speed to changes in the situation, answering tricky questions, dodging, looking for loopholes, and achieving goals?
I CAN DO EVERYTHING
- Meet the king, just a king. This baby has tremendous potential by nature. His thinking is directed towards the future. He was born with a urethral vector. By his nature, he does not perceive any prohibitions and restrictions, there are no authorities for him, and it is pointless to appeal to the statements of the classics, to someone else's experience, to compare him with other children. He knows his own worth. Feels superior over other people. In the early days, the urethral was the leader of the pack, and they still lead us with them.
To lower the urethral in the rank, even such a small one, for example, by imposing on him the fulfillment of educational tasks - to cause his anger, resistance. He himself knows what he needs. He himself will check whether his predecessors made the right conclusions.
Parents can only admire the achievements of a child with an urethral vector, direct his violent energy in the right direction, referring to his natural sense of responsibility - who, if not you?
Who will cope with a difficult task, who will learn the most words, who will find the answer to a difficult question, who will offer a non-standard solution to the problem? Who will unite and lead the team? Of course he is. Whatever he undertakes, in principle, he can handle. The only question is whether adults will be able to educate him correctly. Urethral, first of all, develops communication with peers.
EIGHT VECTOR REALITY
So, the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan distinguishes children according to their innate properties, eight vectors. Using the example of the three lower vectors, I showed how to work on the development of thinking and speech in a targeted manner.
At the end of the article, we will consider how the development of thinking works for some of the upper vectors.
Beauty is a terrible force
A kid with a visual vector is receptive, sensitive, emotional. It is easy to teach such a child to speak beautifully, because he is naturally endowed with a striving for beauty. For the development of his speech and thinking, impressions are needed. He has more developed visual memory, so it is better for him to see once than hear a hundred times. Learning by subject pictures, various kinds of developmental cards, by animated films shows 100% result with a visual baby.
Visual-figurative thinking of the spectator develops reading books, drawing. For example, anal visual children make the world's best artists and designers.
The quieter you go, the further you'll get
A kid with a sound vector is focused on himself, his inner experiences and sensations, can be silent for a long time in childhood, and then speak in whole sentences. He needs time to answer questions until he comes out of his shell. He lives with ideas.
His speech is often quiet, but if you do not shout at him, do not demand to speak louder and respond faster, then a real genius will grow out of him. He speaks written better than oral.
The word is not a sparrow
The oral child has a verbal mind, he thinks by speaking. He usually starts talking early, his speech is fast, with swallowing endings. Finding free ears is paramount for him. It is extremely difficult for him to formulate his thoughts on paper. It is not clear what to choose from the whole stream of thoughts.
We must teach him to highlight the main thing, to listen to him to the end. He can make a brilliant speaker. If you do not listen to him, he will still try to make sure that they listen to him - he will begin to lie, invent fables. Beating an oral child on the lips is a sure way to stutter, or even pathological lies in the future.
Meanwhile, a modern baby is born with several vectors, and you can understand them in more detail, learn their features in thinking and speech, learn to recognize your child's vector cocktail at trainings on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan.
Thought and words are followed by actions, and what they will be, in particular, depends on the level of development of a person's thinking. We have measured a relatively short period of time for the development of natural properties - from birth to puberty, so do not miss the chance to develop your child properly. His happiness is in your hands.
