How to recognize a pedophile
Outward signs are not key in recognizing the abuser. This is a tip, an alarm bell to take a closer look at a person. Pedophilia has become frighteningly unpredictable and ubiquitous. How to secure? How to protect? How to recognize a pedophile?
When sending children to school and kindergarten, we make sure that there are cameras. We do not let them go for a walk and look closely at strangers. We are afraid … Too much news about violence. Pedophilia has become frighteningly unpredictable and ubiquitous. On the Internet, a teenager is waiting for messages from an unknown uncle. A rapist may be waiting behind the school fence. How to secure? How to protect? How to recognize a pedophile?
How to recognize a pedophile
In the minds of parents, such a person must have certain signs: a strange look and behavior, an unusual voice.
Although in fact a pedophile can turn out to be a completely harmless-looking, polite person. You wouldn't think on such a person that he is capable of harming even a fly, much less being a sexual rapist.
Japanese investigator Takeshi Kitashiba noted that the main task of recognizing a pedophile is to monitor a person's lifestyle. But even this cannot be considered sufficient.
To know who is capable of harming a child, you need to understand the psyche of the offender. And for this you do not need to be personally acquainted with him. Yuri Burlan at the training "System-vector psychology" gives a comprehensive description of the human psyche, allowing you to understand the reasons for any actions, including pedophilia. This gives you precise tools and advice on how to identify a pedophile.
What pedophiles look like
Firstly, it is always a man endowed with the psyche of the anal vector in a certain state. In a developed, realized state, such people are talented teachers, scientists, faithful husbands, caring dads. They will never even have the thought of having sex with a minor.
They are able to love children with all their heart due to the peculiarities of their psyche. Their love is a sense of responsibility, a desire to teach, transfer experience and knowledge, make professionals out of children.
In the case of chronic frustration in the anal vector, more often sexual, a man can become truly dangerous. Then a person is overcome by an irresistible attraction to children. This is due to the unusual double libido of men with an anal vector, which causes attraction to both women and children. And if normally the attraction to children is sublimated into a desire to teach them and devotion to them, then in the case of pathologies, the accumulation of frustrations, such a person develops a pedophilic attraction.
Those who have completed Yuri Burlan's training can see the pedophile immediately. His behavior is predictable, his desires are on the surface. Key words and behavioral characteristics can tell about this (it is important to consider in aggregate):
- constant toilet vocabulary (ge, sr, be, shu, jo, shit …) is typical for those experiencing pedophilic desires, but have not yet crossed the line;
- “Dirty” in the senses, cursing everything in the world: power, women, people, pop stars (even if he uses decent words in form, in the senses he means that life is ge, country is shit …);
- awkward, shy, but at the same time evokes a sense of respect and trust; often intelligent, beyond suspicion (common signs of people with an anal vector, including fully realized and healthy people!);
- sometimes sloppy (crumbles at the table, the house is dirty or the clothes are dirty).
Outward signs are not key in recognizing the abuser. This is a tip, an alarm bell to take a closer look at a person.
After all, you can confuse Janusz Korczak, who is ready to protect children at the cost of his own life, or a talented coach, teacher with a pedophile: their mental properties have the same root …
This must be remembered in order not to break the wood and not to slander an honest person. See more in the training video:
How to recognize and identify a pedophile
In most cases, the pedophile is a man with an ano-optic ligament of vectors.
It is in combination with the visual vector that the psyche of such a person is endowed with empathy. A bright emotional amplitude, the ability to evoke pity, allows a potential rapist to gain confidence in the child, to create a special closeness and friendship.
So, the school principal was entrusted by the pupils with their secrets. We went to him, not to mom, for emotional contact. The consequences of such trust are described in our article.
So, the danger can go in three directions:
- A teacher, mentor, coach, confessor, employee of a school and kindergarten is a person who is out of sight of a parent. As a rule, a rapist is a person from an inner circle who monitors the future victim for a long time, including on the playground, in the pool and other public places.
- Relatives: stepfather, father, relative, family friend, neighbor - the one who has the opportunity to constantly communicate with the child and whom the parents have the opportunity to observe.
- A social media friend who meets a potential victim under the guise of a peer and gradually creates an emotional connection with him.
Not a single pedophile (a person with an anal vector in frustration) can approach an unfamiliar child. He needs time to get used to. Therefore, he observes, tries to get in touch, to close the emotional distance. This involves talking, engaging, communicating verbally or over the Internet.
How to recognize a pedophile father
After the divorce, I am afraid to bring a man to children. Suddenly he turns out to be a pedophile …
Mom's condition, her fears, bad experiences can be a risk factor. Life itself attracts violence, abnormal men, "hits" the patient himself. But this is not a verdict. For many women, SVP training has helped to get rid of bad life scenarios forever, improve their personal lives and help their children.
If a child reports abuse, then in most cases this is not a slip of the tongue. We do not want to believe that a beloved husband, brother or teacher could afford this and we attribute it to childhood fantasies. It is worth taking a closer look at a man, because there are examples when from year to year the father committed violence behind the mother's back.
How to protect a child from a pedophile
We are beginning to ask our children more and more often: where, what, when, with whom? (Did the coach go into the locker room, as the teacher talked about during recess?..) We put cameras, demand passwords from social pages.
We let people into the house less and less. With anxiety we send the children to the sections and gaze intently at the teachers.
How to keep children safe, teach them the right actions and forget about this nightmare forever?
To read together fairy tales for empathy, to talk, to share intimate, to keep secrets …
Education of feelings is the only way to protect children and keep their psyche healthy.
- Build the most trusting relationship with your child, create an emotional connection. So that he does not have a lack and need to build this connection with a "benevolent" minded uncle.
- We as parents need to be in good health ourselves. Only in this case are we able to provide the child with a sense of security, so that he does not unconsciously broadcast stress and vulnerability to others.
A mother who takes a course of lectures acquires a healthy inner state. Fears and anxiety go away, she becomes able to establish a strong emotional connection with children.
In such conditions, they will grow up with a sense of powerful protection from everything harmful. And they will not be attracted by their unconscious smell of insecurity of people capable of causing harm.
If you want to learn how to unmistakably recognize a pedophile yourself, Yuri Burlan will tell you more about this already at a free online training.
The training "System-vector psychology" is like an X-ray, which can enlighten the psyche of any person and accurately determine his intentions.
