Love is against the meaning of life. Loneliness in a pair or unity of opposites
If one partner in a pair has a sound depression, and the other has emotional "swings" and hysterics in the visual vector, then their opposites will manifest themselves in a very large antagonism. And then the contradictions seem insurmountable, and the destruction of the relationship - guaranteed.
“Loneliness … And no need for other people. Why are they needed at all? Everything is meaningless and it will never change - vanity, Brownian motion of molecules, endless and eternal. Internal tear. Gaping wound. Pain. I hate it. I hate all this beauty and love, all these tears and snot. Sensuality and sensitivity are disturbing and annoying. And it absolutely does not help to drown out the inner pain. For her, the meaning of life is in love, but for me it is not."
“Why is he so - immersed in himself, detached, emotionally unavailable? He doesn't want to talk to me, doesn't want to spend time with me. He is always at work or at the computer, and for him I simply do not exist. When I want to talk to him, he pulls away. Sometimes he even gets annoyed that I interfere with him. It seems to me that he does not love me. I cannot live next to a person as cold as an iceberg, because I cannot live without communication, without love."
Thanks to system-vector psychology, we can understand such contradictions in relationships, when one person is closed and not inclined to communicate, and the other is looking with all his heart for a spiritual connection, response emotions. This happens in pairs, in which one is the owner of the sound, and the other is the visual vector.
Visual people are more emotional and sensitive. And people with a sound vector often seem emotionally cold, because they are immersed in themselves, in their thoughts.
The sound vector makes its owner look for the meaning of life. Everything material seems to him unimportant, transitory, meaningless. But what's the point then? If the answer to this question is not found, this can lead the sound engineer to severe mental suffering, to deep depression.
The sound component of the psyche is not clear to the owner of the visual vector and attracts him, like a secret that one wants to unravel. In addition, he may empathize with a sound engineer in poor health. This can start a relationship. But then too much misunderstanding is revealed.
Both vectors are complementary opposites, that is, the manifestations of these vectors can be very different, but at the same time complement each other. Of course, this happens when they are in a developed and realized state. But if one has a sound depression, and the other has emotional "swings" and hysterics in the visual vector, then their opposites will manifest themselves in very great antagonism. And then the contradictions seem insurmountable, and the destruction of the relationship - guaranteed.
He and she
Since we are talking about a man and a woman, at the beginning of a relationship there will be a masculine attraction to a woman and a woman's desire to have a sense of security and safety from a man. This is the basis on which the other components of our relations are then formed or not.
There is a widespread belief that men "think" more and women "feel" more. Or that men are "from Mars" and women are "from Venus." But in fact, it also happens the other way around: a man, if he has a visual vector, shows more feelings, but for a sound woman, all this does not make sense. So it's not about what gender a person is or what his zodiac sign is. It all depends on what vector of the psyche he has - visual, sound, or some other of eight possible.
Empathy, the ability to create emotional connections are very valuable properties of the visual vector when they are aimed at the people around them. But with insufficient realization, such a person requires attention and self-love. "You do not love me!" - in this case sounds like a demand: "Give me more love!" But love is what we give, and not what we demand in order to receive.
Deep concentration of thought, the ability to understand abstract things - these are the properties of the sound vector. When you concentrate on yourself, it is not possible to understand what the meaning of life is. And without meaning to the owner of the sound vector, life is not a joy. And if from a person in this joyless state someone demands attention and love, then this provokes completely opposite reciprocal feelings - lack of interest, coldness, indifference and even burning hatred.
How to live with it? Closeness and understanding instead of alienation
All components of our psyche are innate. And until the end of adolescence, all properties set from birth develop into their opposite.
Concentration on oneself, one's thoughts, the inner world and a feeling of superiority over others (egocentrism) is an innate state of the sound vector. And it develops in its opposite - concentration on another person and his psyche. Introversion is into extraversion. This happens when we open the soul of another person, his psyche, we can feel his desires as our own.
It is inherent in the visual vector to fear for itself, for its life. This fear develops through compassion and empathy in its opposite - fearlessness and love for others.
So that, in search of the meaning of life, feelings and emotions do not die, so that love strengthens relationships and does not turn into emotional blackmail, it is important to realize your own characteristics and realize your properties outward, in relation to other people. It fundamentally changes the feelings we experience and the thoughts we think. The relationship of two people realized in society is happier and stronger, because their psyche is balanced.
You can, of course, leave everything to chance. You can try to apply theories that do not work, fortune-telling and love spells. Or you can turn to system-vector psychology to understand yourself and the people around you, get rid of difficult internal states, see a loved one again and already know exactly how to build relationships that will delight you for many years.
Not together, not next to, nowhere -
We go through life unknown land.
Between heaven and hell, in pitch darkness, Meeting different people like myself.
Everything is not what we want and it hurts in the chest.
Loneliness is our friend.
A new day dawns, and again ahead of us An
incomprehensible joy to find each other.
To tear off our mortal body from the earth
And fly towards the light -
We dream that there would be more meaning in everything
than there are of us on the planet.
We talk about love as something that
can be measured and weighed, while forgetting about the other, Who gives love with all his heart.
Without weights, not by grams, but simply loving
Everyone who asks and everyone who does not ask, Forgetting at the same time completely yourself,
Selflessly loving everyone in the world.
This is an eternal drama, where he and she are: He is
looking for meaning, she loves him.
We want to find the meaning of life, loving, And to love without looking for meaning.