Renovation of an apartment is the horror of our town or an incredible adventure. Part 2
What is most dear to you - a loved one next to you or a wallpaper pattern? Repair, like any natural disaster, will pass, but the person will remain. Is it worth breaking the happiness of a relationship for the sake of transient material values?
Part 1. How to make repairs - on your own or hire a team of workers?
How to make repairs and not quarrel
Repair is not only a solution to technical issues, but also active interaction with people - neighbors, workers, utility workers and households. Often, the problems that arise in trying to reconcile the interests of others become even more headache than the repair itself.
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan becomes an indispensable assistant in this case, because it contributes to the understanding of others especially deeply. And this is the right way to avoid unnecessary conflicts and achieve your goals most effectively.
The environment is our everything
It's no secret that man is a social being. We live among people. It seems to us that many of our problems are from them. Much less often we think about the fact that all our joys are also from them. Therefore, it is very important, when making repairs, which is associated with some inconveniences for neighbors, to manage to maintain good relations with them. After all, we will continue to live with them.
Warn your nearest neighbors, at least along the staircase, that you are planning repairs. Make sure that when the water is turned off, a notice is posted for how long this will happen.
Repairs are dust, dirt and noise. Follow the rules of human society. Do not violate the established work schedule associated with increased noise levels. People with a sound vector with particularly sensitive hearing will be especially grateful if you turn on your drill during work hours, and not in the evening when they return home.
At the entrance, there will definitely be neighbors with an anal vector who will be unhappy with the appearance of white paths leading from your apartment to the elevator and exit from the entrance. Dirt causes them special irritation, because by nature they highly value cleanliness and comfort in the house. Don't make them even more angry.
Reassure the dissatisfied that this is temporary and everything will be removed immediately upon completion of the work. Thank you for your patience. Gratitude and patience are their inner values. They will feel that you understand them and will not take offense at you.
And of course, keep your promises - at the end of the day, the white paths must be cleaned up and the debris taken out where they should be. Do it yourself or have your workers do it. Remember that good, good neighborly relations are just as important as the shiny new interior of your apartment.
Be able to agree
With whom you just do not have to negotiate during the repair! And here knowledge of the vector features of people will help to solve all problems quickly and efficiently.
There are often elderly ladies in utilities - dispatchers, accountants, who seem to have been working here since the founding of these services. It happens that they have an anal vector in not very good condition. Still - life is changing rapidly, accelerating, but they just can't catch up with it. They are constantly pulled, not allowed to finish important matters. Everyone wants something from them.
Therefore, they are often always dissatisfied with something and look at the entrance sternly, sullenly. And it is not surprising if, at your polite request to call a plumber, the voice of such a lady will instantly turn into a Jericho trumpet. But your deep understanding, empathy for her problems and gratitude will help to cope with any of her moods. And you look, she is already looking for sympathy, confidingly telling you that she was so twitched that she came to work today in different shoes.
The skin specialists of the communal services perfectly understand the language of money. The magic words "how much does it cost?" immediately significantly activate their brilliant abilities for your own good. With them, do not forget to always be interested in the financial side of the matter. Naturally, you pay according to the tariff.
With a finishing worker who owns the anal vector, plan your work clearly and accurately, setting him well-thought-out and timely tasks. Say all the details. These people are very executive, the main thing is to correctly set the task for them, to sort everything out on the shelves. They require sensitive but strict guidance.
Do not forget to negotiate deadlines with them, because such people like to do everything slowly and can play perfectionism. However, you should not rush them too much - it will be more expensive for yourself. They will be nervous, if not even go into a stupor, stopping work.
If you have started a major repair and employed as auxiliary workers with only a muscle vector (construction workers, manual workers, often have only this vector), then you will need your constant presence nearby. They do not feel the time, so they will not work at all without a leader. It is best to put a superintendent over them with a skin vector that organizes them perfectly, gives shape to their physical labor. The best way to give them an assignment is to show how to do it, since they have visual-active thinking and do not understand another language. Keep in mind that you will need to very closely control the skin supervisor yourself: checks, receipts, material consumption, adherence to technology, etc.
The most important thing
However, the biggest problem may be your dearest half. How many family ships gave their first deep crack precisely during repairs! How many nerves exhausting quarrels arose on the basis of different visions of what a house should be! How many trips to the hardware store ended in a scandal! It also happened that the workers broke and redid tiles, because in the morning the husband gave one instruction, and the wife gave the diametrically opposite order during the day.
And all because people are very different, and in a situation when you need to choose which house to live in, a conflict of values arises. We will talk about how vectors influence preferences in choosing an interior in the fourth part of the article. This will help you understand why your spouse is fighting so relentlessly against the large red poppies on the wallpaper, or your spouse cannot come to terms with the huge costs of "some whim".
Let's approach this issue in terms of priorities. What is most dear to you - a loved one next to you or a wallpaper pattern? Repair, like any natural disaster, will pass, but the person will remain. Is it worth breaking the happiness of a relationship for the sake of transient material values?
At the training "System-vector psychology" Yuri Burlan offers a more joyful scenario. If there is an emotional connection in a relationship, which systemic thinking helps to create, then spouses at least know how to communicate and negotiate, taking into account each other's interests and finding compromise solutions.
For example, the knowledge that your soul mate has a sound vector will make it easy (no offense) to understand that she needs her own space in the house for solitude - to think, to concentrate thought. Or the presence of an anal vector will justify the fact that numerous boxes, boxes and shelves will settle in the house. The order in the house must be first of all!
In this case, repairs will never become the event that will undermine the relationship, but, on the contrary, will become a developing factor - the understanding between the spouses will deepen, the intimacy will increase. And the trip to the store will end with a romantic dinner. And together they will be able to rejoice at the solutions they have found. And subsequently it will be good for them to live in this jointly created house.
It is possible to make repairs and not quarrel if you have practical knowledge about human psychology, which is given by the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
Part 3. How to make repairs and not go broke.
Part 4. How to make repairs so that in six months he does not get tired
