Nine-year-old widow of a rabbit and a guinea pig. Life behind glass 6
Few parents think about what happens when a pet dies. Yes, there will be tears, a home tragedy, a couple of days will be sad and forget. As a last resort, we'll get a new one. This is exactly what happens in most cases …
"Dad, buy me a dog!"
"Mom, let's get a kitten!"
“Look what a rabbit. Can we take him home? Oh please!"
Every time, parents fight off such requests, realizing that they will have to take care of the pet themselves.
Hundreds of books have been written about the benefits of communication between children and animals, including psychological ones. Of course, any contact with nature, including animals, gives every child great joy.
New responsibilities: walking with the pet, feeding it, cleaning, caring for - help to bring up responsibility, a sense of duty in a young naturalist, discipline, make you empathize and take care of a living being.
But rarely do any of the parents think about what happens when a pet dies. Yes, there will be tears, a home tragedy, a couple of days will be sad and forget. As a last resort, we'll get a new one. This is what happens most often.
However, there are special children who, after losing their beloved pet, lose their visual acuity. At an early age, this is quite difficult to notice, especially if the decrease in vision is not pronounced. And a similar violation is revealed in preschool or early school age, when the child begins to learn to read and write. Then no one thinks about the reasons, and all the more does not associate it with the loss of the pet.
In this article, we will consider what kind of special children they are, what to do if you have such a baby and he asks to have a pet, and how to avoid such a reaction to situations traumatizing the visual vector.
Everything around is a living beauty!
A person with a visual vector has a special visual sensor sensitivity. It is he who distinguishes 400 shades of black and, when developed, is able to capture any of your emotions. He himself is very emotional at any age. He always has "eyes in a wet place", tears are close.
As a child, he is distinguished by curiosity. He loves to look at everything around him, admire nature, bright pictures, toys and … revive them. Imaginative thinking and rich imagination make it possible to easily invent imaginary friends and sincerely believe in their existence.
Such a kid animates his toys, pictures, objects, plays with them, talks, gives them names and invents whole stories related to his friends. He is very mobile emotionally - from tears to laughter in an instant, vividly expresses feelings, loves to communicate, to be friends.
The greatest pleasure for a child with a visual vector is to create an emotional connection. While he is still small, he creates it with his toys, cartoon characters and books. As they grow older, with adequate development of the vector, plant and animal nature, not to mention objects, will fade into the background, and communication with people will come first.
A pet for a visual child can become the dearest friend with whom he will share all his sorrows and joys, whom he will love with all his heart, creating a strong emotional connection.
Is it good? Not really. Such a strong attachment to the animal is not always formed, but only in the case of insufficient emotional connection with the mother. A sensitive, vulnerable and emotional visual baby more than others needs the opportunity to share feelings, experiences, emotions and receive a response, participation from mother and loved ones.
And for a mother, as often happens, it is easier and easier to buy the same hamster or rabbit than to look for the time and energy herself to communicate with the child. The kid is delighted, and mom can go about her business. However, the price of such peace is high.
The first sad event will happen when the animal dies. This is how it works … Even dogs live a maximum of 20 years. Not to mention cats, rabbits and parrots. When a child's pet, with whom he created an emotional connection, falls in love with him, dies, the baby invariably begins to lose sight.
The breakdown of the emotional connection leads to the fact that the world for the visual baby becomes hostile and scary. The native fear of the spectator - the fear of death - intensifies and receives nourishment. He suffers, is afraid, does not want to see and feel anything of this. And here, unconsciously, a mechanism finely tuned by nature is triggered. The entire blow is taken directly by the visual sensor, becoming a kind of protection against damage in the mental. In other words, the death of a pet is reflected not in the development of the mental properties of the visual child, but on the sensor - vision is falling.
Educating feelings is a delicate matter
The answer to the question - how to prevent loss of vision - is simple if you have knowledge of system-vector psychology. A visual child needs to be developed.
The saddest thing is that due to the lack of emotional connection with people and the orientation of all feelings and experiences on animals, the visual child will never develop to the maximum level. And this means one thing - in his life there will be a lot of fears and emotional stress, tantrums, and not love.
Arrange for him a room with multi-colored or, conversely, light wallpaper that the young artist himself could paint, give him colors - the most different, the brightest - and room for creative self-expression. Give it to a theater group, where he can experience the feelings of a variety of characters and evoke feelings in the audience.
Strictly avoid scary pictures, especially scenes of some animals being eaten by others. Do not read frightening fairy tales or poems where heroes die, especially where Baba Yaga, Koschey, wild animals or other evil monsters eat them. All this fixes the visual baby in a state of fear and causes a delay or even stops the development of the visual vector.
Fairy-tale stories or cartoons that evoke a feeling of compassion in the child, make them empathize with the characters, contribute to the harmonious development of the visual vector in the direction of compassion, empathy, desire to help, support, sympathize with another.
To understand this process even deeper, you need to know that there are four levels in the development of each vector: inanimate, vegetable, animal and human. As quickly as possible with a visual child, as, indeed, with any other, you need to go through all these stages in his development.
You also need to understand that the development of the properties of each vector occurs only until the end of puberty, this is the age of 12-15 years. After that - the implementation of the obtained properties at the level to which it turned out to develop these properties. So time is short.
Quickly and confidently, with a visual baby, you need to go through the entire development cycle: from pity for a teddy bear that fell to the floor, which is in pain and needs help, to taking care of plants, poor flowers, which are so bad without water that they nod and lower their heads, to pity for the big elephant (in the zoo), which has never seen a free life, and even, perhaps, never saw other elephants. And at the peak - to empathy and compassion for a person.
It is impossible to overestimate the role of the mother, who can create all the conditions and set the required emotional intensity. When a mother has tears in her eyes from empathy and sympathy (and not from hysterics and a desire to draw attention to herself), the child has a new and strong feeling, which he learns to cultivate in himself.
To go together to an elderly grandmother, to make tea for a sick family member, to comfort the younger sister crying in the corner. What matters is real actions that foster empathy in the child.
A strong emotional bond with the mother provides the visual baby with a sense of security and safety - in this case, he has the most important foundation to cope with any worries.
Upbringing in this way gives the maximum development of the visual vector in the direction of love, not fear. And in this case, the child receives a tool for working with his feelings, the ability to cope with any fears in adulthood.
Brought up on living examples, books and films that cause empathy for the heroes, focused on people instead of toys, able to sincerely help and share his love - already at four or five years old he will not be afraid of some Babayka or Snake Gorynych, but will cheerfully laugh at a stupid a fairy tale.
Compassion, empathy, the ability and desire to help others are the main qualities that need to be developed in a visual child in order to maintain his psychological health and protect his sensitive visual sensor.
You can learn more about the peculiarities of the psyche of people with different vectors and important points in raising children already at the free online lectures "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan. Register here.
