How to increase stress resistance
People are looking for and trying different ways to increase their resistance to stress. They calm down the nervous system with pills, try meditation. Follow the advice of psychologists - perform exercises for resistance to stress. They listen to the persuasions of friends - “don't worry so much!”, “Take life easier”. Then what is meant by real stress resistance in psychology and how to achieve it?
Life is raging around, and it is unpredictable. You never know at what moment fate will test your strength. Sometimes you feel helpless and powerless in the face of circumstances, it seems impossible to survive this endless stress.
A difficult, unbearable situation unsettles, throws out of the usual channel. And there is no strength to cope with myself, to return to a normal state. And it happens, you just feel in yourself such vulnerability, spiritual fragility that even simple, everyday things cause tears. Someone's indifference or offensive tone is already stress. Someone's disapproving glance or accidental words hurt to the very heart. What to do?
How to develop stress resistance and adequately bear the blows of fate? Let's figure it out with the help of the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
What is stress resistance
People are looking for and trying different ways to increase their resistance to stress. They calm down the nervous system with pills, try meditation. Follow the advice of psychologists - perform exercises for stress resistance. They listen to the persuasion of friends - "don't worry so much!", "Take life easier." All this does not give anything at all - it does not work to become stress-resistant. Intellectually, everything is clear, no one wants to be constantly pounding from stress. But feelings do not obey, it is impossible to persuade oneself to be calm, the heart does not obey the mind.
Then what is meant by real stress resistance in psychology and how to achieve it?
To become stress-resistant does not mean to detach from the world and abstract from problems. Our whole life is spent in the interaction of "I and other people." It is the quality of these relationships that largely determines our resistance to stress. When everything is in order with your inner self-awareness, and outside you are an active and involved participant in life, who receives moral satisfaction and has real achievements, then you are able to adapt to a greater extent the stress that life situations bring.
True resistance to stress is possible when a person:
- Able to understand himself well, the reasons for his reactions. Know how to change your condition for the better.
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Able to accurately understand others, find an approach to them. Bypass stressful situations that can be avoided and easily deal with those that cannot be avoided. Choose your environment consciously. Do not harbor illusions and, therefore, do not experience disappointments in relationships with people.
Let's take a closer look at how to achieve this and what prevents an increase in stress resistance.
Increasing stress resistance: other people interfere with life
How many fears, doubts, disappointments and resentments we receive in our relationships with other people! This also applies to couples and friendships. Relationships in the work collective and in society. Why do people constantly become a source of stress for each other?
This can be seen even in simple situations. For example, if you are a sedate, conservative, stable person, the word you have given is of great importance to you. If you have agreed on something, you will definitely follow the agreement. And the one with whom you hit your hands may have a completely different psyche. For example, he is mobile, adaptive, quickly changes plans based on external circumstances. You expect him to act as it should, and in response: "Sorry, the plans have changed." It's hard to be stress-resistant when you don't know what to expect from other people!
Or another example. You are a very emotional person, a bright extrovert. Always express the whole palette of feelings to the interlocutor. Trust all your thoughts as if in spirit. And you are waiting for the reciprocal frankness. And in response - silence … Remains silent, and even by facial expressions you will not understand anything. Are you nervous - why is he behaving like this to me? Yes, just the psyche of this person is completely different. Inside, perhaps, there is a hurricane of feelings, and it is very difficult for such a person to express them outside - both in words and emotions.
Human preferences and desires are laid by nature from birth. This determines our view of the world, ways of interacting with it. By not distinguishing people by their mental properties, we tend to expect others to act as we ourselves could act in a similar situation. And man behaves differently - he just has a different nature.
The training "System-vector psychology" gives the skill and ability to correctly recognize the psyche of people at a glance. It can be read both in appearance and in behavior, in facial expressions and gestures of a person. A person's vocabulary, his turns of speech and key words give out everything about his mental nature and the state in which he is. As a result, you get an increase in the quality of communication with any person. There are no more questions about how he will behave and whether he can be trusted.
How much stress resistance of an individual increases when you deeply understand other people, tell thousands of listeners of Yuri Burlan's training:
How to develop stress resistance if your own conditions interfere with life
What a person calls stress is very individual and is associated with the characteristics of his psyche. For example, for someone, the pace of a big city is a huge tension that is difficult to adapt. And for another person, the fast pace of the metropolis is what causes pleasure. For some, a leading position is desirable. For others, the very thought of such responsibility is stressful. You can read more about this in the article Stress, which does not exist.
It happens that developing stress resistance and generally keeping stress does not work because of your own internal state - the accumulated baggage of experiences does not give. For instance:
- Resentment. They become a serious stumbling block in order to change your life for the better. Do not allow developing relationships with people. On the one hand, it seems that you are already experienced, you know everything and you won't be wrong anymore. "We swam - we know." On the other hand, people can be judged only through the prism of this bad experience. If you are unlucky in a pair, then in a potential partner you see a traitor in advance. Even in someone who is sincere with you from the bottom of his heart, you suspect a scoundrel. And it turns out that you live in constant stress, in anticipation of something bad from others.
- Fears. They are typical for people with special emotional sensitivity. Behind them is often experienced mental pain. It's scary to open up your soul again, it's scary to trust people. Scary for your life - what if something happens? Sometimes this fear reaches extreme emotional disturbances, for example, panic attacks, phobias. How can you become a stress-resistant person if it's scary even to just leave the house, to talk to someone?
- Depression. When unreasonable fatigue, drowsiness or, conversely, insomnia falls on. When the head splits from migraines, and the world seems like a theater of the absurd. When it is not clear why in general to live in the world. Those who are familiar with such conditions know that keeping even minimal stress does not work - other people cause hatred and a desire to distance themselves from them. You seem to be thrown out of life, and suicidal thoughts climb into your head.
While the causes of our states are hidden in the unconscious, difficult experiences live by us, apart from our will. They do not lend themselves to conscious control. But when the problem is realized, it comes to a conscious level - it no longer controls the person.
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan completely reveals the structure of the human psyche. Describes a variety of life scenarios, shows in detail the relationships, the causes of any problems. With its help, you will be able to realize the causes of all your states. As a result, previous experiences cease to dominate you, you can adequately and consciously make the right decisions even in conditions of super stress.
Such results are constantly written by people who have undergone training and have received high stress resistance. There are many videos and written reviews with such results. And the brightest - from the residents of Donbass, who manage to live a full life and successfully adapt stress even in a war.
