New Year's gift as a way to the heart. How to choose not to be mistaken?
What should be guided when choosing a gift so that it arouses genuine admiration (I missed it so much!), While showing that the giver was able to study the tastes and needs of the person to whom the gift was intended?
I look into the eyes of a loved one and feel that he knows EVERYTHING about me: what I love and how I live, why I cry and what I am happy about, what I dream about and what I fear. Some people say that when you know everything about a person, he becomes uninteresting, like a book read. Now I know for sure that they are mistaken. I feel: he finally understood the language in which MY book is written.
On the eve of the New Year
A transformed city decorated with lights, snow-covered Christmas trees waiting for buyers, crisp snow underfoot. The hustle and bustle of the shops is a little crazy, but at the same time they inspire a festive mood. The smell of tangerines, the shine of New Year's tinsel, champagne, meetings, congratulations. The air itself smells like a holiday … New Year is approaching!
New Year is a kind of beginning that promises renewal and change. The expectation of magic, which has been inherent in us since childhood, when we, little boys and girls, received from Santa Claus a long-awaited toy, a dog, a kitty, something very desirable.
The approach of the New Year is always associated with gifts. This is a whole ritual, starting with their selection, beautiful packaging and up to the solemn presentation. And the most difficult thing for many of us is choosing a gift. We begin to think and wonder what exactly to give to grandmother and mother, beloved husband or wife … And sometimes it takes more than one week.
What should be guided when choosing a gift so that it arouses genuine admiration (I missed it so much!), While showing that the giver was able to study the tastes and needs of the person to whom the gift was intended?
A few tips from Yuri Burlan's Systemic Vector Psychology
A person's preferences and tastes are an external manifestation of his mental characteristics. They are dictated by innate, basic desires that nature endows a person with, based on its design. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan identifies eight basic desires (vectors) that determine the initial values of each particular person, his interests, thoughts, and actions.
Need gives birth to invention
The innate desire of a person with a skin vector is limitation and economy. In his striving for the rational use of all resources (forces, time, space), he becomes a talented inventor and organizer. The main value of the skin person is the desire for social and property superiority. The desire to take the leading position in the group makes him competitive and ambitious. He loves precision and discipline. In his life, he is guided by the principle of benefit-benefit. He has a flexible psyche and flexible body, so he easily adapts to any changes. Doing several things at the same time is about him. We can see the skin man among businessmen, engineers, middle managers, lawyers, it is they who attend fitness clubs, dance groups, go in for sports.
Based on internal qualities, the value of things for a skin person is determined, first of all, by their usefulness or prestige. The latest model of smartphones, branded accessories, fashionable perfume, stationery of famous manufacturers, subscriptions to a pool or fitness club will become pleasant gifts for him. If you follow the advice that the best gift is a book, then a skin person can be presented with books on building business relationships, the basics of stock trading, etc. And, as an option, a gift certificate can become an unmistakable gift.
It's so pleasant for me to live, write, read, work, enjoy at home (Kotani)
Slow, meticulous, a little awkward, very homey, he does not tolerate haste and brings any business to perfection. Likes cleanliness and orderliness in everything: thoughts - consistently, linen - in a stack, shoes - in a row. We are talking about a person whom Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology defines as the owner of the anal vector. The main values for him are home, family, friendship, devotion. In his preferences, the anal person is conservative, respects traditions, appreciates authority, and prefers time-tested to everything modern. In life, balance is important for him: you - to me, I - to you, as much as I received, I will return as much. His hobbies involve little mobility: collecting, fishing, reading books (art classics, books on history, archeology). The abilities of a person with an anal vector are sharpened to perform work that requires attention to detail and perseverance, analytical thinking. In any field, quality is paramount for him, and the main award is recognition of merit and respect. These are the best teachers, experts, "golden hands", the best husbands and wives, the most caring parents.
When choosing a gift for a person with an anal vector, you should consider its cost: it should not be too expensive, otherwise he will feel obliged to give you a return gift for the same amount. A good gift will be books, antiques, solid and high-quality ("forever"), tools for the home or summer cottage. For home comfort, give a woman something that she can use at home, and a man - a plaid blanket, cozy pajamas or warm slippers (depending on the degree of intimacy). The collector will be pleased with the new elements of the collection. A touching gift will be your homemade compositions from family photos or a traditional birthday cake (as your mother used to bake). And, of course, boxes of various sizes for storing things.
Only the one who is kind and brave knows how to sympathize …
A feature of the human psyche with a visual vector is the innate ability to empathize. Only they can cry, worried about the unfortunate heroine of a novel or a feature film. They usually express sympathy for a stranger in a difficult situation, feed a stray cat, etc. The main value for a visual person is love, and an innate talent is the ability to create emotional connections with other people, as well as with pets and even with teddy bears. The range of their emotional experiences is unusually wide: if fear, then to fainting, laughter, so to tears, and love (once again) is eternal. Observation, the ability to notice the smallest details, shades of colors and differentiate smells, combined with imaginative intelligence, makes visual people aesthetes, true connoisseurs of beauty.
The range of gifts for the visual person is endless: illustrated books and fine art objects, visits to beauty salons and spa salons, expensive perfumes and cosmetics, scented candles and scarves, beautiful lingerie and cute knick-knacks. Particular attention should be paid to the decoration of the gift: original and beautiful packaging will delight its delicate taste no less than the gift itself. Also, one should not forget that a visual person is a dreamer who sincerely believes in miracles, predictions and omens. Try to give your gift the most auspicious symbolic meaning.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals the secrets of the formation of interests, tastes and preferences and other vectors, the description of which was not included in this article (we are talking about the urethral, muscle, sound, olfactory and oral vectors).
Receiving and giving
Giving gifts to each other is a long-standing tradition that delights both the giver and the recipient. First of all, a gift is a sign of attention from another person, a sign of reverence and respect. He emphasizes our need and importance. And if the gift also suits our tastes, then an incomparable feeling of closeness and understanding arises.
But giving is even more important. Choosing a gift or making it with our own hands for a loved one, we invest a part of ourselves, and, giving to another, we receive pleasure through giving.
System-vector psychology says that the desire to bestow and the joy of bestowal are originally characteristic only of people with a urethral vector. The rest need to gradually cultivate these qualities, starting from childhood. Sharing helps a person to take their place with other people. People, feeling warmth and care, are automatically attracted to the person from whom they come.
Afterword
Unfortunately, New Year's Eve is passing, donated things and souvenirs are becoming commonplace, season tickets are running out, flowers are fading. And the desire to be understood, needed and loved remains …
Nature made us different. Our difference is our unity, the unity of the species Homo sapiens. And in it are the roots of all conflicts that occur due to misunderstanding of each other. Our worldview is shaped by our innate desires. They are hidden from our consciousness, but, at the same time, they create a certain angle of view from which we consider the world around us. When the other person does not fit into our angle of view, there is a desire to "fit" him by force, which often destroys relationships between people.
The best thing that we can feel in a relationship with another person is the feeling that you are understood, that you are not alone. Therefore, the best that we can give a loved one is a sincere, trusting warm understanding, when we do not condemn him and do not expect something that he cannot give … but we understand him and can support him in any situation, regardless of the New Year this or the most common weekday.
We wish you happiness, mutual understanding and true intimacy in the coming year. So that a loved one, looking into your eyes, feels that you know EVERYTHING about him. I felt that, finally, you understood the language in which HIS book was written.
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