Which circle to send the child to?
It is necessary to think about why we are sending the child to this or that section? If the child himself knows what he wants and aspires to something specific, the question disappears by itself. But what do parents want? Raise a champion, musician, chess player? It happens that they force the child to do something just to please their whims …
First of all, you need to think about why we send a child to one or another section? If the child himself knows what he wants and strives for something specific, then the question disappears by itself. But what do parents want? Raising a champion, musician, chess player or famous ballerina? It happens that they force the child to do something only to please their whims or unfulfilled childhood dreams, without thinking about what would be useful and interesting to him. Or they are simply mistaken in their choice, sincerely wanting to instill useful skills in the child. What does he really want - and then he quit, and he doesn't like it … What can I offer him?
In a child, it is necessary to develop exactly those qualities and abilities that are given to him from birth, directing him to the area where he can maximize his potential. The fact that the process of education and upbringing of each individual child needs to be approached individually is no longer news today. But the question remains: how to understand what exactly your child needs?
System-vector psychology helps to understand and feel the mental structure of any person, teaches to see behind his words and actions those unconscious processes, innate qualities and desires that make up his personality.
It should be borne in mind that only before puberty can a child actively develop the skills to use these innate qualities. And then, in an attempt to realize himself in adulthood, a young man or girl will only use what he has time to work out by the time of maturation. Therefore, in no case should one postpone and let such an important process of formation take its course. The task of the parent is to create adequate teaching pressure on the properties given to the child by nature, thereby developing and teaching him to independently enjoy the activity he is capable of and which is intended for him.
In children with a skin vector, it is first of all necessary to develop innate flexibility and dexterity, a sense of rhythm and time, accuracy, speed. For them, sports are well suited, in particular athletics, shooting, as well as dancing, gymnastics, figure skating. They, like no one else, need discipline and self-discipline, in the ability to comply with the regime: only by learning to obey such requirements in childhood, they will be able to show organizational skills and lead others in adulthood.
For older skin children, additional classes in mathematics, economics, logic, law, as well as all kinds of sections of design modeling, which will develop their logical thinking and the innate function of saving resources, time and space, are suitable. Such people make excellent engineers, lawmakers, businessmen.
For the owners of the anal vector, who approach any business thoroughly, it is important to give the opportunity to perform any work efficiently, thoroughly and slowly, bringing the result to perfection. In the future, they, as highly qualified specialists and professionals, will not have a price! Such children can be offered various circles of crafts made of wood, stone, gypsum, sculpture modeling, pottery, girls can try themselves at cutting and sewing, embroidery, knitting, origami, crafts and soft toys, cooking courses.
In adulthood, people with a developed anal vector are “masters of golden hands”. And about those who have upper vectors in addition, they say "golden heads". Having a naturally good memory and systemic thinking, children with an anal vector assimilate information for a long time, but forever, structuring it to the smallest detail and putting everything on the shelves. Add to this anal perseverance, diligence and get a brilliant excellent student at school! Today they are the best scientists, doctors, teachers, historians, archivists. Only they can perform work that requires perseverance and careful study with high quality and professionalism.
Children with a urethral vector are special. They are like an uncontrollable tornado, sweeping away all obstacles on the way to their goal. Often parents do not know what to do with such a wayward and disobedient child. He doesn't do it out of spite - he just doesn't feel controlled. It is useless to order him, he needs to be directed. This is the future "leader" who will soon lead the members of his "pack" forward into the future. Even now, children in the yard and school unconsciously gather around him, and it is important already at this age to teach him to take responsibility for his environment. The owner of a developed urethral vector in adulthood is able to occupy a high position, to lead a large company. But, not having learned to adapt his natural desire for power, he slips into criminal gangs and leads already there.
Therefore, it is best to send him to team sports, where, as the team captain, he will learn to take responsibility for the group on himself, manage and move forward to new achievements.
A child with a muscle vector tends to accumulate muscle mass, he enjoys giving a load to his muscles. It is important here to turn this need for the benefit of everyone and accustom the child to physical labor, and not give him to the gym. There is no need to make him a strong man, he can handle it himself. It is important to teach him to manage his power, to measure it, to feel its impact on the outside world. So he realizes his innate quality and will be useful for society, unlike the second option, in which such a person does not carry any payload.
Visual-active thinking allows a muscular child to quickly learn professions that require the ability to correctly apply physical strength. In a modern city, pure muscle is hardly found. More often this vector is combined with others, and in this case the muscle vector does not manifest its properties independently, but only “strengthens” other vectors, making a person more powerful and enduring.
Girls and boys with visual vector are delicate, sensitive and creative natures. They are very emotional - they take one step from joy to tears. For the anal-visual, literature classes or art school are suitable. The skin-visual will like a theater studio, ballet or rhythmic gymnastics. At the same time, it is important to understand that such activities become only a way to develop in a child an innate sense of beauty.
After all, the highest level of development of the visual vector is an expression of love, sympathy, empathy, helping people, the ability to emotionally experience other people's states as their own. The spectator can become an artist, actor, art critic, designer, making his contribution to the development of ideas of culture and universal values, indirectly influencing those who will consume the fruits of this labor. Or he can use his qualities directly - become a doctor, social worker, nurse or psychologist.
Oral babies are great foodies. By teaching this to cook, you can grow a future chef. The loudest and best singers, of course, are also oralists. It is from them that the best opera singers grow. However, these activities lack one important developmental element that is so necessary for the oral child.
As you may have guessed, such people become the best orators, able to make the audience think in the same categories, to feel that the speaker's thought is their own. It is best to enroll him in a public speaking course. Such a child speaks non-stop! Still, because he thinks by speaking. By developing this speaking, we thereby develop thinking in it. He will speak one way or another, but if this desire is subdued, he can very soon become a pathological liar, seeking attention from the listeners at any cost.
A child with a sound vector should be treated in a special way. Often he is immersed in himself, thoughtful, does not want to play with his peers. There are reasons for this behavior, but while it is small, you need to protect it from harsh sounds and noisy companies, give the opportunity to be alone. These children have abstract intelligence - and that's what needs to be developed. At home, parents should definitely introduce him to reading. Among the circles, the most suitable for him are a music school, foreign language courses, physics, astronomy, computer science, and chess.
The best minds of mankind, the most talented physicists, mathematicians, musicians, writers, programmers and many others - these are realized sound scientists. Read more about their upbringing in the article "Recommendations for parents on raising sound children."
The olfactory person, becoming an adult, has a very important function. An inconspicuous child with a thorn in his eyes, he is capable of intrigue at school or in the yard. This is the "gray eminence" behind which stands politics and management, finance and the academic world. The area of his activity will differ depending on the level of development of the sense of smell and on the available lower vectors. Smells are those people who are responsible for the survival of the entire flock. The flock will survive - he himself will survive in it. Therefore, in the case of an olfactory child, the more pressure, the more difficult the conditions, the more he will develop. Such a child will find his own way of development and will even make it so that he will never be sent to study in the circle that he does not need. For example, you can give him a microscope: the invention of penicillin was one of the major olfactory breakthroughs of the last century. It is at this level that the olfactory system ensures universal survival today.
However, here it is necessary to understand that such people are extremely rare, and it is very easy to make a mistake with the diagnosis of the olfactory vector. And touching upon such a complex topic as the upbringing of children, it is especially important to emphasize that it is possible to acquire the skills to accurately determine the vector set only after undergoing the training “System-vector psychology” by Yuri Burlan.
In an effort to give education and skills in circles and sections, one should not forget to leave time so that a child with any vector set has the opportunity to communicate with peers in the yard. The ability to adapt and find his place in any team will definitely come in handy in his adult life.
Today you rarely meet a person with 1 or 2 vectors, we have become more complex, polymorphic. Now each of us has about 3-4 vectors, or even more. Combined, they give a slightly different picture of a person's character and behavior. This should also be taken into account when choosing a suitable circle. You can learn more about mixing vectors, raising children, parent-child relationships, and family relationships at the psychological trainings of Yuri Burlan.
Education is a creative process that requires a lot of strength, energy, love, patience and, most importantly, knowledge. And there is nothing more beautiful than, by directing your child along the best path possible for him, to be proud that you have become a participant in the formation of a worthy and beautiful person.
