Midlife crisis: a dream funeral or a second wind?
Someone dreamed of building a dizzying career, achieving financial well-being, but failed to sufficiently realize their aspirations. Someone associates the cooling of relations in the family, the disappearance of vivid feelings or attraction between partners, the breakup of a marriage or adultery with a midlife crisis.
And it also happens that a person is satisfied with everything in the family and at work, but he does not feel happiness. The crisis in his mind manifests itself with questions: "And what is the point?"
"Dreams, dreams, Where is your sweetness?"
A. S. Pushkin
Until recently, youth was ringing in my soul, and it seemed as if the whole world lay at your feet. Where did this inspired joy go, how did it slip into oblivion, like sand through your fingers? Instead, a midlife crisis loomed on the horizon with its tough and implacable questions about what you have managed to achieve, what you have come to over the years.
The midlife crisis is perceived by us as a kind of "meridian of life", when the conditional half of the way is already behind, and we are summing up the intermediate results of the years lived. Alas, the results are not always pleasing to us.
Someone dreamed of building a dizzying career, achieving financial well-being, but failed to sufficiently realize their aspirations. Someone associates the cooling of family relations, the disappearance of vivid feelings or attraction between partners, the breakup of a marriage or adultery with a midlife crisis.
And it also happens that a person is satisfied with everything in the family and at work, but he does not feel happiness. The crisis in his mind manifests itself with questions: “And what is the point? Is the running of these gray days in a vicious circle "home-work" and there is everything for which I was born?"
A similar crisis can occur in both men and women. But its symptoms differ from person to person, since the causes of a bad condition depend on the innate desires and needs of a person. When they do not find their fulfillment and satisfaction, we are faced with a crisis, and it is not age at all that is to blame.
The ups and downs of the career ladder: aspired to the sky, and went down to the basement …
Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology defines people who strive for property and social superiority as carriers of the skin vector. It endows its owner with ambition and enterprise, the ability to compete and compete.
Both men and women with such properties unconsciously have a desire to compare their achievements with the successes of colleagues, friends and even neighbors.
When half of his life is over, and the results are not encouraging, a person with a skin vector feels the symptoms of internal irritation.
“I have been working for so many years, but I haven’t managed to curry favor with the head of the department… I couldn’t even buy a car!” - these are typical thoughts of dermal men who reach middle age and are not satisfied with their financial situation. "Look, neighbor Vaska bought a fur coat for his wife, every year they go to the sea, and we live like homeless people!" - echoed by the chorus of skin women who are dissatisfied with the material success of their marriage partners.
The reasons that lead a person with a skin vector to failure and give rise to a midlife crisis can be different. They usually lie in the area of the unconscious (for example, it can be childhood trauma from physical punishment or verbal humiliation). Consciously, we strive up the property and career ladder up to heaven, and unconscious attitudes lead us to a "damp basement" for losers.
Family breakdown is a tragedy of life
Very different symptoms of stress, characteristic of a midlife crisis, are manifested in carriers of the anal vector. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains that family and children are the dominant values for such a person.
Therefore, the symptoms of dissatisfaction with life, characteristic of a midlife crisis, in people with an anal vector arise in a situation of serious problems in the family.
Such a person seeks to create stable relationships for many years, and in a situation of divorce or simply breaking established ties, he experiences tremendous stress. Cheating in marriage gives him no less pain, which he unconsciously feels as a betrayal.
For an anal person at any age, adaptation of such changes and recovery from the crisis take a long time. But even time does not always help, since the anal person often leaves the previous relationship with a load of resentment or guilt. In this case, a midlife crisis can manifest itself as procrastination, “life deferred syndrome”. And the past cannot be returned, and it is impossible to live in the present. A person becomes a hostage of such a crisis of internal contradictions.
Oh loneliness, how cool your character is …
If a person is the owner of the visual vector, which, according to the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, gives its owner a huge range of sensuality, then breaking the emotional connection with a partner can become a real tragedy, cause an internal crisis in the owner of such properties.
Visual people comprehend their lives in love, in creating sensual connections. And even with a safe relationship, they can experience deep shortages and internal crisis for the reason that the former fireworks of feelings with a partner has died out. "Doesn't he love me anymore?" - such a person asks.
The cause of a deep inner crisis for the viewer can be both loneliness and the ghost of steadily approaching old age.
Everything works out, but only life is not a joy
And there are also completely strange people, about whom they say “not of this world”. For the rest, the crisis at least has an apparent cause, and for such an eccentric, determined by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan as a bearer of the sound vector, the midlife crisis raises questions completely incomprehensible to others.
“Why do I live? Is it just to satisfy the needs of the body? What about the soul? Why did I come into this world? - the sound engineer asks.
Reaching middle age and never getting answers to his questions, he becomes hostage to the deepest internal crisis, which can lead to depression and even thoughts of suicide.
Age is not a hindrance to happiness
As we can see, there are many reasons for the crisis. It is the awareness of these reasons that helps to solve difficult problems.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains that our psyche is arranged as a principle of pleasure.
The realization of the qualities and properties inherent in us by nature gives us a feeling of happiness and fullness of life.
In the classroom on system-vector psychology, a deep study of all unconscious contradictions that prevent us from realizing ourselves and being happy takes place. Your condition becomes beyond the control of any crisis, and does not depend at all on age.
The owners of the skin vector successfully realize themselves in a career and material achievements.
Representatives of the anal vector get rid of resentments and feelings of guilt that prevent you from living happily.
Spectators gain the ability to build deep emotional connections and enjoy love for the world around them.
And even sound specialists in the classroom find answers to their eternal deep questions.
It is possible to be happy at any age. To complete this mosaic of your happiness and overcome the midlife crisis, register for a free online training on systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan.
